Not every guy who truly loves a girl is able to confess his feelings; for this you need to have special courage and confidence. Many gentlemen, due to the lack of the latter qualities, remain silent, and the beauties, without hearing the cherished: “I love you,” leave. In fact, it is not difficult, you just need to tell the truth to your beloved. If you are embarrassed to say it directly or are afraid that you will be rejected, do not despair, today I will teach you how to confess your love to a girl so that it is beautiful and correct.
Should you confess your love to a girl?
Confession of feelings is a step leading to a serious relationship, perhaps even a family one. Therefore, there is no need to rush with him and you need to think carefully about whether you should confess your love to a girl. Meet longer, get to know each other better, what if this is not your person. Some guys make the mistake when, after 1-2 dates or the next day after meeting, they begin to confess their feelings to the girl. Most often they do this for several reasons:
- love at first sight;
- a banal desire to sleep with a girl;
- the desire to tightly tie your beloved to yourself.
What do ladies do in such cases? That's right, they're leaving. They won't believe a word you say. They will believe more in the second point, some girls will agree to this type of relationship. In other cases, the ladies will simply not be ready for such a turn of events, will consider you abnormal, or will sharply want to “remain friends.” The reason for this is the young man’s excessive haste, and in love affairs there is no need for haste. Before confessing his feelings to a young lady, a young man needs to think about what he really feels for the girl: a slight crush or true love. These two feelings are different:
| Love | Love |
| Longer lasting feeling, sometimes for life | Short-term, quickly arises and passes quickly |
| Acceptance of the chosen one in its “pure form”, with all the shortcomings and features | The desire of the “lover” to remake the chosen one, to develop in him qualities beneficial to himself |
| There are no love triangles, couples always feel good together | There is always someone else who destroys the union |
| Mutual understanding, supporting each other in difficult times, sacrifice | Selfishness in relationships, the desire to satisfy one’s needs first |
| Intimacy is secondary, the feeling of love comes first, the desire to satisfy a partner | Intimate life comes first, selfishness in sex |
If you have sorted out your feelings and think that this is love, you need to think about the best moment to confess this to the girl.
Get ready
In every sense, this is thinking through from place, time and words to caring about appearance. I will tell you below about how, when and under what circumstances it is better to confess your feelings to your beloved.
In the meantime, read and save the checklist of mandatory preparation items: material and mental.
- Be confident. If you are modest, your modesty, appreciated by your chosen one, will be visible in any case. Therefore, try to sound and speak as confidently as possible: say the cherished words several times before the meeting (maybe in front of a mirror), get ready in advance. Immediately before confessing, try to calm down in a way that is appropriate under the current circumstances.
- Prepare for different things. You’ve been planning this moment for days, but the girl isn’t expecting it at all. She may be confused, may answer inappropriately or be unprepared for an answer, and she may also change her mind and change her reaction after a few days. Keep all of these options in mind and react calmly if things don't go as planned.
- If she rejects you, offer friendship. This will be a sign of concern, which may influence her change of mind.
- Don't ask for an answer "here and now."
- Let her be the first to know how you feel. Don't tell others about them before you tell her.
- Take care of your appearance. Take a shower, dress neatly, shave, brush your teeth.
- Remember that fear and slight uncertainty are normal.
When is the best time to confess your love to a girl?
As already noted, quick recognition does not bode well. Therefore, first, let’s highlight the moments when it is better to confess your love:
- you have been together for more than 3 months;
- there was an intimate relationship between you;
- you are comfortable in the company of a girl;
- she understands and appreciates you;
- her friends and family like you;
- she asks you for advice and help;
- she respects you and does not allow herself to insult you;
- the chosen one makes joint plans where she sees you with her;
- the lady shows care (like a mother);
- your chosen one always hears and listens to you;
- demonstrates his love - kisses, hugs, says pleasant words and compliments;
- respects your opinion, interests and hobbies.
This is an example of an ideal relationship, when partners value and respect each other; if you have at least 2-3 points the same, it’s time to act!
Common mistakes
Communicating your feelings via SMS is not a good idea.
- There is no need to talk about your feelings if you are not 100% sure of them.
- There is no need to start a conversation if the atmosphere around you is noisy and uneasy.
- It is better to avoid confession via Skype or SMS, using a call.
- Drinking an alcoholic drink to give you courage will only push your chosen one away from you.
How to confess your love to a girl?
We will devote this block to all the intricacies of correctly recognizing your beloved’s feelings. First, let's define the basic rules:
- The right time and place.
You need to confess at the right time, when you are together, the lady is in a good mood and nothing prevents you from saying those very words. For example, if you are watching an exciting film in the cinema, where at the climax the characters declare their love or just kiss, you can whisper in her ear: “I love you.” At such a moment, she may be the first to confess.
- Alone.
You can confess your love to your beauty when you are together. This way you will feel confident and no one will interfere. A group of friends will confuse the lady and you, and in general, when it comes to feelings, there is no room for others. You can confess publicly when you are sure that your chosen one will reciprocate your feelings.
- Clarity of words.
When it comes to confessing your feelings, there is no need to fuss, but you need to tell it like it is. That is, the words: “I miss you” or “You are very dear to me”, “You mean a lot to me” will not make it clear the main thing - that you love her. She will understand that you need her, but as a friend nothing more, so you need to say right away: “I love you and want to be with you always.”
There are times when a guy and a girl have been dating for a long time, but shyness and lack of self-confidence in such situations prevent the young man from confessing; advice from “experienced” guys will help him declare his love to the beauty.
Signs that a girl is not indifferent
When you already have a relationship and have been dating for some time, it is likely that the girl experiences the same feelings as yours. When we are talking about a person who a guy likes, but she does not have a close relationship with him, it is difficult to understand what is in her soul.
Let's look at what manifestations of a woman's character may indicate that the chosen one is interested in you:
- the girl looks with loving eyes;
- when she sees you, her cheeks turn red;
- she gets embarrassed if you look directly into her eyes;
- smiles if you are nearby;
- tries to spend time together as often as possible;
- If contact has already been established, he often calls and asks.
How to confess your love to a girl if you're shy
Constant thoughts about the same one, about recognition, can disturb and worry a young man in love, so the guy needs to prepare for this moment in advance and provide for all the options for the outcome of the event. All the main tips and recommendations boil down to the following:
- prepare a “script”, rehearse;
- try to look into her eyes;
- be tactful;
- speak in simple words, do not praise her as a goddess;
- Don’t rush the girl to answer, don’t put pressure on her.
But if it is not possible to immediately say about love one-on-one, you can write a confession in an SMS, in a contact, or send a voice confession to your phone. This way you will prepare the ground, and at the same time you will find out her probable answer. Later, everything can be repeated live, but without much excitement and fear.
Confirmation by actions
No matter how beautiful words are, they must always be confirmed by actions. Many people, unfortunately, forget about this simple truth. Even after mutual recognition, one must show one’s feelings by treating the person and caring for him.
It’s good if the feelings turned out to be mutual; After confession, you can continue the romantic evening, hug or kiss your partner, or give some nice gift. The main thing is not to speed things up and not make far-reaching plans right away - you need to thoroughly enjoy the new moment in the relationship.
Love is just an incredible feeling. It's worth experiencing.
And you shouldn’t be afraid of refusals, it’s better to try and not regret than to doubt and suffer all your life - what if the feeling could be mutual.
How to beautifully confess your love to a girl: 10 best ways
When excitement and fear are overcome, you can choose the best option for a beautiful recognition. Let's give an example of the most original options:
- Valentine's Day.
Suitable for both couples who have been dating for a long time and at the beginning of a relationship. You can lay out a heart of small candles in front of the entrance and wait for her with a bouquet at the door.
- Romantic date.
This is the very option that all young ladies like. Invite her to a cafe or for a walk, wait for the right moment and say: “My girl, I love you”!
- Public recognition.
This can be done at a concert, negotiate with the presenter and at some point go on stage with recognition. This option is also suitable for a marriage proposal. Recently, this option has been gaining popularity: at the wedding of friends, where a couple is invited, most often after “Gorko” the guy gets up, takes the microphone and confesses his love to his chosen one. A storm of emotions will be guaranteed for everyone.
- Like in a movie.
You can use methods from films if financial capabilities allow. Remember the hero of the series “Kitchen” Max, who climbed onto a crane with a bouquet and knocked on his beloved’s window. Such recognition will be pleasant for your beauty, and she certainly will not be able to refuse you in return.
- Romantic video or presentation.
Suitable for guys advanced in this area. Give her a small movie with your participation, put all your love and soul into it and believe me, she will appreciate it.
- Serenade.
This option is suitable for creative young people with an ear for music. Sing her favorite love song and make a confession as you sing.
- On your favorite radio wave.
If your beloved listens to the radio, you can call the radio station and declare your love to her there; first you need to ask your beloved to turn on the desired wave.
- Simple and easy.
If nothing original comes to mind, you can simply come to her with a bouquet of flowers or a small gift, kiss her and say: “Honey, I love you.”
- Letter.
If embarrassment does not allow you to say everything directly, write a beautiful letter, you can add poems about love or with confession. The girl will be impressed if these are poems of her own composition. And only then you can back up the confession with a romantic date.
- Breakfast in bed.
This method is suitable if your beloved spends the night with you or you with her. In the morning, while your beloved is sleeping, you can run for fresh coffee and ask them to write “I love you” on the foam. You can buy buns or make toast, don’t forget about flowers - at least one red rose will already make her day and your recognition unforgettable.
When a guy and a girl are adults, their behavior is easy to predict; all actions are already quite mature and thoughtful. But what about those who are not yet 18 years old, or even 16 years old? How to confess your love to a girl who, say, is only 14 years old? We'll talk about this further.
Infatuation and love
Love and infatuation are seemingly the same concepts and feelings; they may start the same but end differently.
Love can live for years, while falling in love either quickly passes or flows into true love.
How to distinguish between these two beautiful states?
Love:
- It always arises spontaneously, it is so bright and captivating that a person’s perception of reality seems to change.
- The attachment to the object of desire can be so strong that the rest of life fades into the background.
- Falling in love is often accompanied by a strong physiological attraction, passion, desire to possess a person at any cost; Every day without the object of love becomes a burden.
- Falling in love can push a person to make drastic changes and can sow strong doubts about himself and his appearance; can push you to take rash actions just to attract the attention of a potential soul mate.
True love can be called the highest manifestation of feelings, but not everyone can achieve it.
With true love, a person is perceived as a whole, with his entire inner world, his merits and demerits; I don’t want to change him, he is loved completely.
Love can develop over the years, only becoming stronger and stronger. Separation from a loved one is very difficult, but with such love, distance can only intensify feelings. Love makes you strong, able to overcome any adversity: “Together forever, in joy and in sorrow.”
Loving people help each other to develop themselves and become better; they easily make concessions and find compromises. Love is mutual respect and complete understanding. There is no self-interest in it, it is perfect.
Attention! Love and infatuation are united by sympathy, passion, intimacy, inspiration. But love has a more spiritual basis than a physical one.
What is the difference between love and infatuation is explained in the video:
How to confess your love to a 14 year old girl
If you like a girl from your class or a parallel one, then you have exactly the same chances as other active boys, especially those who have already begun to show signs of attention to your beauty.
In such cases, you need to show your masculine perseverance and confidence - how you show yourself in the first stages of communicating with her is exactly how you will remain in her idea of you. For teenagers, everything is not so simple; any step a guy takes can be regarded as simple tomfoolery or a “game of hormones.” Therefore, you need to be an adult when communicating with a girl, but in moderation. You can show her signs of attention:
- help carry her textbooks or bag;
- open the door for her when entering;
- give her compliments: a beautiful dress, or a beautiful hairstyle;
- help her understand her homework;
- write notes;
- takes it seriously, without jokes;
- accompany you home.
In addition, you can accompany her on walks after school and communicate on social networks. But it is necessary to remember that girls at the age of 14 also experience hormonal changes, so one wrong step (for example, a hasty kiss) can lead to a slap or slap in the face.
It’s too early to talk about adult declarations of love here, but you can do this:
- dream about the future with her: “What if we got married, ....” (watch her reaction);
- write in contact (we’ll talk about options later);
- confess on holiday (March 8, New Year, February 14).
There are few options; teenagers are often embarrassed to talk about feelings directly, especially when they have no experience communicating with girls. Therefore, the best option for this is recognition on a social network. Let's look at the most successful examples on the VKontakte network.
How to confess your love to a girl on VK
On social networks (VK, Odnoklassniki, FB) a person becomes more relaxed and feels more confident. The right words are immediately selected, which are so difficult to say live. What to write to your beloved, how to confess your love to a girl on VK? You can choose the following combinations:
- Your image is stuck in my head, I dream about you more and more often
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- You make my every day happier
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- Thank heaven for such a beautiful Angel like you
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- My status: “In love”, guess who?
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- You know, one very beautiful and sweet girl can’t get out of my head, she’s sitting now and reading this SMS
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- You are online - and I am alive
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- I wish I could see you again tomorrow, my love.
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You can write poems about love and the lady will understand that it is addressed to her, change the status to “in love,” monitor her statuses and adapt to them. If you see that there is feedback - she sends emoticons, flirts, then she is probably not indifferent to you either.
There are often cases when the likelihood that the chosen one will reciprocate after confession is zero. What to do in this case if there is a fear of being rejected. I will talk about this below.
Examples of confessions
Last night I dreamed about you. Damn, I dream about you almost daily. It seems like I could spend days with you and it still wouldn't be enough. When I close my eyes I want you near me.
Next to you, I realized what true love is. Now I enjoy this feeling, a life that I never knew before. I will love you until the end of my days.
Many times in life we can find people who win our hearts. We take it for granted. I'm so used to all the wonderful things you do for me, and I don't want you to think that I don't appreciate it all. Every moment I am grateful that you are in my life and in my heart.
I hope you know how much you mean to me. You are an important part of my life. In fact, you are the center of my universe. Everything I do is for us, and especially for you. I always try to do the right things that will make our relationship stronger. You inspire me to be the best version of myself. Without you, I would be a completely different person. Thanks to you, I really know what love is.
I feel lonely to tears when you are not around. Even when I go out under a cloudless sky, everything seems to be hazy. Clearly, you are the brightest light in my life. That might explain why I feel so good around you. You give me strength and charge me with energy in difficult moments. I love you very much.
When people said that “behind every great man there is a great woman,” I felt uneasy. They seemed to be saying that I couldn't succeed unless a woman helped me. But now that I’ve met you, I understand it perfectly. Now I feel like I can do something because I know that I have such a wonderful person like you next to me. You inspire me to be a better, more successful person. I hope I can do the same for you. We are better together than we ever were individually. Love you.
Baby, I'm truly madly in love with you. I want to shout this out loud from the top of the highest mountain. We've been through so much and we still have strong feelings for each other. I just want you to always be by my side. I found you and it's forever.
You are more beautiful than a summer sunset on the ocean horizon. You are more breathtaking than the stunning view from a high mountain. You are brighter than the stars in the country sky. You are more seductive than any love song that has ever been sung. I didn't understand what the true meaning of beauty was until I found you.
Before you came into my life, I was just an ordinary person. There was longing in my heart. I felt like I was missing something. Today I realized exactly what is missing. You. Now that you are with me, I feel that my life is harmonious.
Every time I look into your sparkling eyes, see your dazzling smile and hear your beautiful voice, I fall more and more in love with you.
I'm in love with you... Touching you makes my heart beat faster.
An incomprehensible and very pleasant feeling appeared in my chest, which I cannot explain. It fills my life with meaning and my eyes with light. This is probably love.
Millions of poems, thousands of compliments, hundreds of sweet words cannot make my heart beat faster. Only your single glance did it.
Falling in love with someone means that you see this person not with your eyes, but with your heart, and feel him not with your body, but with your soul. I've learned to see you this way.
I lost myself in the vast ocean of love, devotion and passion. Being with you means feeling all the beauty of the world and being part of it.
There is only one answer to the questions: “What is love? What is happiness? What is joy? That answer is you.
It took me three minutes to fall in love with you: I thought about your beauty, which amazed me, for two minutes, and the strongest feeling was born in my heart during the remaining minute.
Love is when looking into your eyes is much more pleasant than contemplating the stars in the sky.
When you smiled at me, my breathing stopped. When you spoke to me, I could not move because of this wonderful and intoxicating feeling. And when you touched my hand, you stole my heart. I love you.
When I first met you, I thought my life would change a little. But what actually happened is that you became my world, my universe, the meaning of life and the only person for whom I live.
Falling in love with you is like magic. Every day I discover more and more warmth, lightness, sincerity and kindness in myself. I am incredibly happy that I met you.
Now you know how to beautifully confess your love to a girl in your own words. Good luck!
How to confess your feelings and not be rejected?
The main rule is not to wait for an answer from the young lady. A declaration of love is a monologue that does not require feedback. If the beauty confesses too, great, no, it’s okay, maybe she wants to think it over and not rush into a decision. If a girl clearly said “no”, it means that she is not your destiny, she should not belong to you and it is pointless to achieve her.
If you feel that a girl also feels something for you, but you still can’t understand what this feeling is, you can declare your love and at the same time dot all the i’s. Here are some useful tips in this controversial situation:
- speak convincingly, you must understand that the fate of your relationship depends on your persuasiveness;
- be gentle in your words, do not raise your voice, do not be rude;
- be strong and prepared for the fact that you may be rejected;
- respect any of her decisions or reactions;
- don’t be nervous, if you’re very worried - take a sedative, but under no circumstances alcohol;
- take this matter more simply (without “corrals”);
- be yourself, don’t pretend to be a prince on a white horse;
- speak from the heart and without deception.
Remember, if a lady rejects you, you don’t need to try your luck anymore and bother her about this, you can just stay with friends. Over time, you can switch your attention to other available beauties.
But things don’t always turn out so sadly; there are many cases where a young lady reciprocated recognition, and this was a real holiday for both. Perhaps fate has prepared such a surprise for you too, so dare and win!
To a young man who has already had a kiss
After kissing the young man, you were confused and did not have time to confess your love to each other. However, you shouldn’t run away from this; you need to admit it right now. Example 1
By writing a message, for example, like this: “Dear, dear, my best. Meeting you completely changed my life. Everything went differently for her. All the everyday bustle has disappeared somewhere, and the days have become so bright and memorable! Time seemed to have taken on a different aspect. It languishes when you are not with me, and just rushes at the speed of light when you are near. You touched my heart, and most importantly, you managed to touch my soul. And you can't escape from there. Your kiss does not burn with passion, on the contrary, it envelops you in tenderness and sensuality. Your hugs are not shackles, but reliable support. Does love exist? Yes, and only you made me believe it.” Example 2
This option is also perfect for explaining your love to your boyfriend via SMS: “Beloved. Yes, now I can call you my love. After all, after kissing you, I realized that you are the most precious thing that can ever be in life. I have forgotten what true love is, but you are different. Thanks to you, my heart can feel again. I was about to think that it was completely frozen and cold, but your fire inside was able to warm it up. You are not just a man, you are my salvation. When you are not there, I miss you, when you are with me, I am the happiest. This may sound all stupid and corny now, but I just want to tell you how I feel. It’s very difficult to say this to your face. Only SMS saves. Just know that you are the most magnificent man I have ever met."
