A week ago, my friend and I went to a course for women “How to communicate with a man.” I'm still impressed and can't help but share it with you. Of course, the topic of relationships is not new - at all times, men and women have tried to gain the attention of the opposite sex. All imaginable tricks and secrets of seduction, love magic and the art of flirting were used. In the east, girls were taught from childhood how to get a man’s attention and please him so that he would forget to think about anyone else. Since psychology appeared, the study of gender relations has not stopped and interest in the topic has not subsided.
So how can you understand a man? How to arouse interest and remain remembered as an exceptional woman?
Features of men's perception of the world
Dear ladies!
Men are not aliens, as they sometimes write in books. They're just different. Their thinking and worldview are different from ours.
At all times, raising boys has focused on courage, dexterity, and the ability to be a leader and provider. Think rationally, make decisions and be responsible for them. Girls, on the other hand, have softer, more vulnerable, sensitive natures. Their tasks were to be a mother and housewife, to be able to manage everyday life and create comfort for their man after battles and exploits. And women perceive any event more subtly and emotionally. It is generally accepted that girls are cheerful and open, and men are unemotional and practical. Actually this is not true. “Legs grow” from centuries of experience in education. Here are a couple of simple examples that explain the way a man thinks: A woman will react emotionally to the simple phrase “the window broke” or “oh, I got hurt,” and a man will react rationally. It is important for the lady to sympathize; a picture has been scrolling in her head and she understands how painful it is to get hurt. A man's mind is different and is tuned to solving a problem.
Therefore, instead of “oh you, poor thing!” you will most likely hear: “Treat the wound, apply a tourniquet and go to the doctor immediately!” It's not insensitivity, it's caring.
A woman's thinking is more figurative.
It is easier for her to create new things, to fantasize, to be creative.
A man should always have a plan.
Therefore, it is easier for him to sketch rather than draw, to develop a ready-made idea than to come up with a new one. And one more thing: she always notices details, he focuses on the big picture. Hence the inability to find anything in the closet or refrigerator. In addition, a man’s awareness of himself in society and relationships is influenced by: Physiological characteristics The more a boy considers himself strong, athletic and “cool,” the more confident he is.
Details: men have less developed lateral vision. Therefore, he can spend a long time looking for keys or a pen that lies on the edge of the table, and not in the center.
1.1. Age
Agree, the values and criteria for choosing a girl at 18-20 and 30-40 years old are different for a young man. At the age of 20, a rare guy thinks about a serious relationship and pays more attention to bright, daring fashionistas. Closer to 30 years, when everything that one wanted to prove has been proven and conquered, a man begins to seek attention and understanding of himself as an individual. Comfort and peace in relationships.
1.2. Upbringing
What kind of upbringing a boy received in childhood and what example of treatment of women he saw in the family will largely determine his behavior with the opposite sex in the future. And it will even influence the choice of the type of partner. But more on that later. If he is the only long-awaited child in the family, if all the whims were fulfilled at the first dissatisfied grimace, and there was always a round dance of grandmothers and nannies around, then such a boy will grow up to be a “narcissist” - capricious, selfish, helpless and even cruel.
And from future women he will expect the same treatment as he received in the family.
In this case, you will have to learn how to communicate with a narcissistic man. Or leave it.
1.2. Nationality
Yes, yes, this is an important factor. The culture in which your chosen one grew up and was brought up, what traditions are embedded in his head, will also influence his manner of communication and treatment of women.
For example, how to communicate correctly with an Eastern man?
He will shower compliments and compare girls' eyes to stars in conversation, and this is normal for them. But he will never tolerate a raised tone in his direction. Therefore, to convince him you will need all the gentleness, wisdom and feminine cunning. And in Latin America they will approve if a girl is the first to take the initiative when meeting someone.
The importance of first impressions. Practical advice
Many famous psychologists, such as Dale Carnegie, emphasize the importance of first impressions. You shouldn’t neglect their advice when meeting a man.
If a woman is worried, she needs:
- smile, sincerely and a little mysteriously, but by no means constantly;
- speak not too loudly, so that the man can hear without straining;
- look into the eyes of the interlocutor, and not to the side or down;
- do not violate personal spatial boundaries;
- talk less about yourself and listen more;
- interrupt the meeting first, citing some circumstance and expressing regret about ending the meeting.
These are very simple and effective ways that will help not only cope with internal tremors, but also leave a lasting impression on yourself. After spending an evening with a woman who behaves this way, a man will begin to miss her even before she has time to fall asleep.
What kind of women do men love?
Before you start communicating with a man, you need to understand what kind of women they like.
I’ll tell you a secret - a man falls in love not so much with the person herself, but with the state that he experiences next to her: comfort, peace, joy.
It’s easy for him, he’s not afraid of being misunderstood, he feels big and strong. You don't need to be perfect - just perceive him as a person, and not an object of conquest.
And yet, which girl will be of increased interest?
2.1. By external signs
Stylish
Not necessarily dressed in the latest fashion in branded items. You can look expensive even in simple clothes, well-chosen in style and color combination. Acid, tacky, animalistic and aggressive prints should not be in your wardrobe if you plan to stay in a man’s life for more than one night. Clothes should be understandable (otherwise they are intimidating) and give free rein to imagination.
With a pleasant voice
In any conversation, avoid high-pitched, shrill notes and croaking sounds.
90% of men are more sympathetic to the owners of a deep “velvety” voice with a hoarseness.
This timbre instills in them a sense of peace and security, and also excites the imagination and sensuality. High “girly” voices attract those who are subconsciously ready to “adopt” and who do not tolerate equality. Such a man will show care and attention in return for complete submission.
Self-sufficient woman
Before you learn to communicate with men, you need to be able to become interesting to yourself.
Real men love busy, inspired, developing women who have a hobby or business that makes their eyes sparkle.
This is a sign that the lady is a self-sufficient, integral person, that you won’t be bored with her, she doesn’t focus only on relationships and is capable of inspiring. It’s always interesting with something like this, you always have to conquer it.
Able to handle children and animals
Firstly, it is a sign of a woman’s kindness. Secondly, sooner or later, the gentleman will begin to try on your image for the role of the mistress of the family and mother of children. Or it won't start. It depends on how you show yourself.
2.2. By type
In addition to general data, there are also certain types that attract men:
Catwoman
Soft, flirty, charming. Either he cuddles and purrs, then he disappears for two weeks. Unpredictable, independent, tenacious. You'll never guess what's on her mind. A little lazy, because she is experienced and knows how to properly communicate with men and their psychology. This type is “fallen” by people who are not very confident in themselves, who need approval and the awareness that he is “good”.
Frank bitch
A godsend for macho men who love rollercoasters in relationships. Adrenaline, excitement and risk.
Such a woman is beautiful, knows her worth, is prudent and perceives a man as a resource.
This is the type that is most often found among lovers.
Woman girl
No matter how old she is, she always wants to help. Shelter, protect, warm. Next to her you feel like a real hero, a male. Friendly, sensitive, naive. It’s easy to cheat someone like this in the store, but she’ll easily forget about it when she gets a new dress.
Successful marriages usually develop with such women, because “girls” are responsible housewives.
There is also a vamp woman, a boss woman, a lady and a gray mouse. There is an amateur for each of them, depending on the psychological state and self-esteem.
The most important technique “Anchoring”
Use anchoring when communicating with a man. With the help of anchoring, you can easily attract him with emotions and feelings that he previously experienced happily, such as childhood memories or love situations. By recreating such experiences, you can quickly build a close relationship and can even make a man chase you.
Here is a classic example of the anchoring technique: You meet a man at a party for whom you have specific feelings, he is in a good mood because he is on vacation with friends.
You smile at him and, at this moment, gently press his elbow (put a kinesthetic anchor). Subsequently, it will be enough for you to do the same compression, and most likely this man will experience a similar feeling of joy. And since all this happens in your presence, he will subconsciously associate his positive emotions with you.
In a similar way, you can use this “anchoring” technique during the erotic experiences of your lover. For example, at the moment of your partner’s orgasm, place a kinesthetic anchor (you can, for example, squeeze his wrist), and if you suddenly notice that your loved one has begun to grow cold towards you, use this anchor. The result will be in your favor!
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How to meet the man you like
My dears, in order to get to know any person, you need one thing: approach him and get to know him. But, if you don’t have enough courage, your palms are sweating, and your mother’s words come to mind that “the boy should go first,” then there are several clear ways to let a man know that you are not against dating.
1. Nonverbal communication
Or body language that signals your interest. Your gait, head tilt, special smile can say a lot. Straighten your hair, smile, roll your eyes, like in the movie “The Bat.”
A woman tinting her lips looks seductive. Just don’t overdo it here!
Open gestures, relaxed postures and natural behavior endear you and make it clear that the initiative to get to know you is desirable for you and safe for him.
2. Little tricks
Marilyn Monroe had her heels filed to make her walk more seductive. Coco Chanel wore men's trousers.
What's stopping you from doing a little prank to meet possible love?
Drop your purse, “accidentally” collide, trip, spill coffee on him or yourself (just make sure it’s not too hot).
3. Send a message
If this happens in a public place: a restaurant, a party, and you are worried that noise may interfere, write a short note and pass it along to the waiter.
Yes, it's bold, but what do you have to lose?
In the worst case, they simply won’t answer you and you’ll never see each other again. And at best, you will make an interesting acquaintance.
3.1. How to understand that a man is interested
When a woman imagines an ideal meeting in her head, she often assumes that her partner will behave boldly, confidently and relaxed. In fact, if a man is interested in communicating with you, he will worry about falling in your eyes. If he really likes you, you will quickly realize it.
By the way he:
- — Shows special attention, strives to show oneself from the best side;
- - Wants to impress in any way: do 50 push-ups without hands or tell an exciting story about how he walked on a bear;
- — He will try to treat you, see you off, and ensure your safety;
- — Will take your contacts to continue communication;
- - There will be a lot of jokes.
3.2. How to behave at the first meeting and what to talk about
Fact: for a man to feel “kinship of souls” and sincere sympathy, it takes 100 hours. 100 hours for him to speak out. Therefore, do not rush to lay out everything about yourself - be patient, ask interesting questions, and listen and listen. It is a good experience to understand how “your” person he is.
Until you know each other too well, choose neutral topics so as not to hurt anyone's feelings.
You can navigate the place and see how it goes. But the best improvisation is a prepared improvisation. Therefore, here are a few topics on how to communicate with a man to interest him:
- - About him. Give the man the freedom to speak, while showing sincere interest and nodding approvingly;
- — New movies, premieres, music. Who likes what, who went where. Often such a topic can end with a proposal to go to a movie or a concert together;
- - Sports. There is no man who does not love some kind of sport. Even if you don’t understand it at all and are far from this topic, ask him to explain.
And don't be afraid to look awkward.
The gentleman will be flattered by both your interest and the opportunity to share knowledge and once again show off your erudition;
But it’s better not to touch on the topic of politics, finance, your problems, cosmetics, so as not to be misunderstood.
During the conversation, remember about body language, open postures, and a “live” voice. Be positive.
Trick: You can make a man feel that you are on the same wavelength and understand him by mirroring his movements. He bowed his head and so did you. He crossed his arms - repeat after him.
Observation is the key to understanding
Any representative of the stronger sex is a complex creature, its psychology is a separate science. Unlike a woman, it is quite normal for a man to say one thing and do something completely different. However, he will not notice the difference and will not understand what is wrong. How to understand a man and talk to him correctly in order to get what you need?
The key is to observe. Experiencing emotional upsurge, a man easily makes many promises, which he is then in no hurry to fulfill. This happens not because it is harmful or unnecessary. The emotions just subsided, he began to think soberly, he no longer sees the need to rush, to do something immediately. No, he will do everything, but later.
What is the right thing to do? By observing a man, you can understand how strongly he is inclined to make rash promises and how quickly and accurately he fulfills them. Taking into account all these nuances, building a dialogue will be much easier. Firstly, it is best to turn the moment of making a promise into the moment of its implementation. If it doesn’t work out, it’s worth reminding how nice it was to hear that a man is ready to do such and such, let him feel that same emotional uplift again.
How to behave with different men
If there are female types, then there are also male ones.
How to find out which of them your partner belongs to, how to behave with him and what to expect?
4.1. How to communicate with an introverted man
An introverted man prefers a calm, solitary atmosphere. He is used to thinking a lot, being silent a lot, and needs to be alone to recuperate. He doesn’t have many friends, you won’t meet him in noisy parties, and he often gives the impression of a boring nerd.
In fact, introverts are smart, well-read and reliable people, successful careerists and loyal friends.
But charming an introverted man is useless. He makes his own choice according to criteria that only he understands. It’s another matter when he wasn’t an introvert, but became one. For example, as a child, an inquisitive, active boy ran to share the news with his mother, and she answered: “Don’t interfere!”, “Go and play alone!” So the child learned to study on his own and avoid society, considering himself unnecessary.
4.2. How to communicate with a divorced man
A divorced man is like a soldier who fought - he was already in a serious relationship, he was hit by shells, you can’t fool him. This is an experienced, attentive, seasoned warrior. And if the divorce was painful, then he is often distrustful and offended by the entire female half of humanity. You can often hear him say that getting married is no longer a no-no.
You can melt the heart of a divorced man only with patience and affection. No pressure or criticism.
4.3. How to communicate with an egoistic man
It is useless to re-educate an egoist. He will only be offended that you do not accept him for who he is and “nag.” There are several solutions: - Show by personal example how to do it. Most likely, your chosen one was the only son and all the attention and gifts were only for him. He can be a kind person and not even notice such a feature in himself; - Start behaving the same way. The method is aggressive and can lead to conflicts; - Stop communication. The most nerve-saving option. But, if you don’t want to leave, see point 1.
4.4. How to communicate with a manipulative man
There is no need to communicate with a manipulator!
Unless absolutely necessary. For example, he is your boss. But even here, keep conversations to a minimum. With such a man you will feel guilty. He will always find a way to get his way, reinforcing the story that it is for your own good. He is one of those who states that in a relationship it is important to listen to each other and make compromises. In particularly unhealthy cases, such a man will threaten to harm himself if you don't do what he wants. This is not a matured, childish, capricious person who believes that everything revolves around him. You need to run away from such relationships early and far away. Of course, if this is not your comfort zone.
Our women love to save everyone, have compassion, and also blame themselves.
And don’t worry - he won’t do anything to himself. The love for one’s own person is too strong.
Features of the psychology of men
It is unlikely that I will open America for you by telling you that male and female psychology are completely different things. But even knowing this, we rarely delve into exactly how they differ. For clarity, I suggest you familiarize yourself with several examples.
They often equate what we call caring with mistrust. For example, by regularly asking if he drives at high speed, we show our feelings. A man will perceive this as constant control and doubt.
Men don't understand women. A good half of the fair sex thinks so, however, few people think that they themselves lead to this. The fact is that, not having such a reserve of emotions as we do, they are not able to catch the essence of what we expressively present to them.
A woman constantly makes remarks in a conversation, this is how she expresses attention to her interlocutor. For a man, interrupting means being aggressive.
Dating by correspondence: rules of flirting on the Internet
60% of married couples met on the Internet. Online dating sites make the task of finding a partner much easier.
Advantages of online dating:
- — You risk relatively nothing except wasting time;
- — You can correspond on the Internet in comfortable pajamas and with tea, while feeling beautiful and seductive;
- — Virtual communication gives a feeling of permissiveness and courage;
- — There is a chance to meet foreigners.
There are also disadvantages:
- - You can never be sure who is really hiding behind the avatar;
- — You and your interlocutor can embellish the photo and biography at your discretion;
- - A man may turn out to be a fraudster or simply married;
- — A person may unexpectedly interrupt the conversation and not allow you to explain.
5.1. Rules for communicating with a man in correspondence
How to communicate with a man in correspondence, where to start a conversation, should you write first?
Virtual communication differs from ordinary communication in that the opponent does not hear your voice, intonation, or see the reaction to his words. Try to answer as clearly as possible, without ambiguity (unless this is part of the game). When you see a new letter, do not rush to open it immediately. Show your interlocutor that you weren’t waiting at the computer all day. Writing first is acceptable and normal. The ratio is 1 your message to 5 his.
Ask questions that a man cannot answer in monosyllables.
Develop topics that interest him. The 100 hour rule applies here too. It is quite possible that after several evenings at the keyboard you will be asked to switch to a dialogue on the phone. If this does not happen, show your interlocutor that you do not see any prospects and cut down communication, let him get bored. Remember that communicating on VK is not the same as communicating on Tinder. A man may need different types of attention from you.
5.2. Telephone communication
There are a million manuals, advice from specialists, psychologists and folk tricks on how to communicate with a man on the phone. The stronger sex does not like telephone conversations too much, preferring real communication.
Therefore, one of the rules of such conversations is not to talk to a man on the phone for more than 3-5 minutes.
So you win on three points at once:
- — Don’t seem like an obsessive chatterbox;
- — You remain mysterious;
- - This makes it possible to see how much a fan is interested in you, because even in 3-5 minutes, having learned that you are “a little busy,” he will have time to invite you to a personal meeting.
A short telephone conversation will tell the gentleman that you have something to do, that you value time and do not use it for empty chatter.
Be as easy as possible to live
To live comfortably, in peace, it is advisable to be as light as possible.
Regina Brett's famous conclusions:
- When it comes to chocolate, there is no point in resisting.
- Make peace with your past so that it does not spoil your present.
- It's never too late to have a happy childhood. However, a second childhood depends entirely on you.
- Don't save anything for a special occasion. This special occasion is today.
- In case of any so-called catastrophe, ask yourself the question: will it be so important in five years?
- It doesn’t matter whether the situation is good or bad – it will change.
- Don't take yourself seriously - a wise person doesn't do that.
If you look closely at these tips from Regina Brett, they all boil down to keeping it as light as possible. Not to suffer and torment that life is not fair, but to see it mostly as good.
How to keep a man interested
It is not so difficult to take a man captive as to then feed him in captivity for the rest of his life.
Having received the desired attention, it is not enough to think that he is now yours forever. A man by nature is a hunter. Now imagine that this hunter came into the forest, and a beautiful young fox runs out to meet him and begins to rub against his legs - “well, kill me, please, hunter!” Such behavior will cause him bewilderment, fear and thoughts that the fox is mad, it is better not to mess with it. Therefore, maintain the idea that you need to be constantly conquered. But then don’t stand aside - take care, show attention, praise. Let him feel that you can’t do anything without a man’s help: the bags are heavy, the light bulb burns out, and opening jars is a real hell.
Tell him more often how smart you are, how lucky he is to have you.
As a joke, of course. Over time, the source from which the information came will be forgotten, and the confidence that you are the best will remain in the background. Compliment your man. And don't be afraid of being misunderstood or overdoing it. They love to listen to pleasant things and, if they notice outright flattery, they will not point it out. Surprise and pamper your hero. A note in his pocket, his favorite dish, a massage, various pleasant little things. If you are not interested in a man’s life, he becomes withdrawn and ultimately indifferent. Don't wear your pride like a crown, participate in your partner's life and you will be happy.
Rule 1: Give compliments
First of all, do not forget about compliments and kind words .
This fact is far from stereotypical ideas, but men react to compliments no less than women. This could be praise related to appearance, or a compliment to the qualities shown in a certain situation, or a positive assessment of success at work. The main thing is to make the man feel like you see his efforts.
Every man has some virtues, you just need to point them out to him. Erich Maria Remarque
How not to behave with a man
There are a number of rules that are unacceptable for a lady in communicating with a man. They act like a red rag to a bull and work against you.
7.1. Claim that he owes you
No one owes nothing to nobody. Everything should happen “out of love.” Giving is for love, spending is for love. Another person cannot owe you anything. This is a violation of personal boundaries and his birthright freedom. If he wants, he will do everything himself. Thinking like that is new and scary, I understand. And this does not at all fit into the traditional opinion, where a man is a priori obliged, because he is strong. Remember what advice Woland gave to Margarita: “Never ask for anything!.. They will offer it themselves and give everything themselves!”
7.2. Let him be the first
He’ll come up, call, do it. This is how the conservative attitude “I’m a girl” emanates.
Sometimes taking initiative is good and healthy
. A man is a simple person who cannot read your thoughts. Therefore, if you wait and sulk, without making it clear what you want, you risk not getting it.
7.3. Criticize, hysteria, ignore his wishes
Even if you don't like something, there are different ways to communicate it. One of the rules of dispute: first find something to praise and agree with, then make a claim. Do not under any circumstances insult a person (anyone) in a quarrel.
When solving a problem, talk about the problem without getting personal.
Respect your man's wishes. He has the right not to go to the theater or visit your friend if he doesn’t want to. Just like you have the right not to go fishing with him if you don’t like it. Violence against yourself does not strengthen relationships. It creates the conditions for a victim position, grievances and subsequent reproaches.
7.4. Forget about yourself, adapt, expect gratitude
Remain a whole person in any relationship.
Don't lose yourself in your partner, don't try to become more comfortable or sacrificial.
Don't expect him to appreciate it and understand what gold he got. In 99% of cases, he won’t appreciate it.
Therefore, give what you want to give, take care according to your capabilities and your understanding. Otherwise, one day it will lead to that same phrase about the best years of your life.
7.5. Hint and take offense
If you want something, say it directly. This will save time and nerve cells. His and yours. Due to their thinking, men do not understand hints.
The phrase that you are out of perfume is just information. But the phrase - that you need new perfume - is a call to action.
The way to solve the problem.
How to become light: 4 components
How to become an easy person? At first glance, it seems that easy people are such a Gift of God to them. They were “born this way.” To some extent, this is true. Lightness may be an innate characteristic of a certain type of nervous system. And specifically when:
- balance of excitation and inhibition processes in the nervous system. The more balanced these processes are, the easier it is for a person and the easier it is for him. Agree, it is difficult to be light if one thing predominates in your nervous system - excitation or inhibition. Such a characteristic as fatigue of the nervous system is also important. There are people who are naturally tired - they get tired faster than others. And this depends on the ability of the nervous system to withstand prolonged stress.
- emotionality. Processes of emotionality can be from birth with a predominance of +++ emotions or with a predominance of - emotions.
At a second, more careful glance, the truth is revealed: you can become light if you analyze in detail and carefully the components of the lightness of being and “try them on, put them on yourself.” And then the question “how to become a light person” will be resolved positively EVEN for all those to whom nature did not initially give a more successful nervous system.
I want to be an easy person! First component
This is the first thing to do.
Create an intention for yourself. WANT to be easy.
At the same time, understand why you need it. After all, the motivation that is clear to you and ignites you will move the process of gaining lightness and cheerfulness forward.
Tell yourself firmly, “I want to be light!” And this will give me:
- - the opportunity to live your life happier
- -the ability to build smooth, loving relationships that I will have throughout my life
- -I will be in demand among friends, I will have many useful, inspiring social connections
- -also, I will be able to build a more successful career and, therefore, earn more money. And that means having everything you want
Become and be an easy-going person. Second component
“I want to be as light as the wind!” - you say to yourself. But, if you are still sitting at home in front of your computer (TV, phone), then it’s time to become an easy-going person. And this includes 2 factors:
1. The desire to move.
This is not so much a psychological as a physical desire. It is due to the fact that you are not lazy. Do physical exercise regularly.
You've probably heard examples of stories about people who radically changed their lives by starting to play sports. Why? Because sport turns your very NOT ready to move and changes it into readiness to move. Agree, it is impossible to be as light as the wind, to be an easy-going person without an acceptable physical shape.
2. Desire, thirst for impressions.
Openness to new experiences is a sign of psychologically healthy people. After all, life is a series of impressions. The desire to live = the desire for new experiences.
Look around: the world is so diverse! We are surrounded by thousands, millions of opportunities to diversify our dull existence. You just have to want it.
Become cheerful, be a positive person. Third component
It is possible to become light, positive and cheerful. By making a conscious decision:
Look for reasons, reasons for pleasure and joy in your life. Cultivate pleasant things in your life.
Remember the parable about brown and blue?
About how How a student asked his teacher: “Please tell me why I am always in a bad mood and why everything is sad around me?”
The teacher responded by telling him to carefully look at the room they were in and remember all the brown objects. Then, leaving the room, he asked the student to list blue objects.
To which he was very surprised: “But you told me to remember brown??”
The teacher replied: “That’s why you’re in a bad mood all the time - you focused your attention on brown, dull things. The secret of lightness, cheerfulness and positivity is to focus your attention on the pleasant, joyful, good!”
How to be easy in life - to be kind, and always young. Fourth component
Being easy in life also means being a kind person and young. Even with age, despite the wrinkles and general decline of the body, you can easily be a kind person, and easily be a young person. Believe me! The point, again, is in certain actions and the right approach:
“Once upon a time there was a dark period in my life. This was the period after the divorce. I was overcome by depression. And I only had enough strength to somehow go to work that I was tired of. And then lie there and suffer.
I once read an article in which a psychologist gave a recipe for bringing yourself back to life: becoming kinder to the world. Do small acts of kindness every day. Not for the sake of gratitude. For your own sake. I tried it, and the result really inspired and surprised me.
It is worth consciously saying a kind word to someone. Smile. Help with something. How life begins to change in amazing ways.
The period of depression after the divorce has long passed. I'm in a new, happy relationship. But I didn’t give up that habit. Being kind is easy. And this is necessary. Not for the sake of gratitude. For your own sake."
AND FURTHER:
“Youth is in the heart and soul. They talk about this all the time. But you only understand this after you’ve crossed half of your life. And you make a choice: either you are young, or you slide further and degrade. I chose to be young. For example, I took Lloyd Kahn, who is over 80. But he is young, rides a skateboard. That's where the easy man is! When I’m 80, I want to be just as young and nimble.”
Women's tricks
It is not so difficult to attract a man as to keep his attention to your person. If it’s not interesting to communicate with you, you shouldn’t cry and ask heaven what you did wrong. You have many opportunities, the main thing is to realize and understand how to use it.
So, a woman should take note of the following tricks:
- Control your voice, or rather, its timbre. Thus, men subconsciously attribute a velvety and deep voice to beautiful, slender girls, and a breathy voice excites erotic fantasies.
- Fill the pauses between topics with interesting stories or anecdotes. Don't allow awkward silence to arise.
- Express your sympathy only after the man has expressed his.
You no longer have time to look for special techniques to interest him. You should be puzzled by this long before the meeting, especially if you have liked the man for a long time. There is only one chance to hook it, which cannot be missed.
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