Discrete - who is he? Description of personality type

67420 In addition to the generally accepted division of people depending on the channel of information perception (auditory, visual and kinesthetic), there are such people as digital (discrete).

Digital comes from the English digital, which means “discrete”. If we characterize this type in a simplified way, we can say that for it, symbols - words and numbers - come first. Their type of perception is aimed at logical justification of everything that happens around them. It is among these people that there are many mathematicians, chess players, programmers, and lawyers.

The separation of digitals into a separate group along with people, who are divided depending on the dominance of a particular analyzer, is quite controversial. Logical thinking cannot be classified as a sensory organ; rather, it can be defined as a way of processing information.

How to recognize discrete?

Discrete people are those people who must study all the information received from the outside world and sort it into shelves in a strict order, translate it into diagrams and logical chains.
In everyday life, discretes are very calm and reasonable people, they are pedantic, scrupulous, they do not like displays of feelings and try to communicate strictly to the point; such people are often classified as smart people.

How to understand that the interlocutor is discrete?

A distinctive feature of discretes is that they experience the world not through the senses, but through logic. Discrete resembles a walking computer: it constantly weighs the pros and cons, thinks not about the people themselves, but about the causes and consequences of their behavior.

Discrete individuals have striking distinctive features that make people of this type easy to recognize:

Dry speech with an abundance of logical connections and conclusions. Discrete likes not to talk about events, but to analyze them. At the same time, he is silent about his feelings and does not even betray them with intonation. But he pays special attention to the facts.
When choosing any item, he first of all thinks about its functionality and benefits. Discrete will not waste money on a useless thing.
During a conversation, he prefers not to look his interlocutor in the eyes. However, some discrete people know how to maintain eye contact, but they do this only because it is customary.
Discrete people do not know how to show insight in communication, so they often seem tactless. But that's not true. It’s just that it’s hard to understand another person using logic, and they’ve learned to ignore their feelings.
Discretion is almost never the soul of the company. On the contrary, people of this type are often closed and unsociable.

There is an opinion that people are not born with disabilities, they become them under the influence of life conditions, and that there are no children who are children with disabilities.
However, every person is born with already inherent capabilities, which, if the necessary conditions are met, will be developed in the right direction. There are two ways to become discrete:

of one's own free will,
as a result of unfavorable living conditions (read about this below).

The most logical psychotype

More recently, a new type of psychotype was discovered

Let's start with the fact that many may not understand the term “psychotype”.

This is a combination of human character traits that describes the psychological type of a person from the point of view of psychology itself.

These are the features that distinguish him from others, shape his attitude towards life and the world around him, and influence his worldview.

You will never meet a visual or kinesthetic person in their pure form. A person’s worldview will always vary depending on different life situations, but still one psychotype can be the main one and prevail in a person over the others.

Scientists have always identified three human psychotypes:

audio,
visual,
kinesthetic.

Until recently this was the case. But several decades ago, scientists came to the conclusion that there is another type of psychotype - discrete or digital. The name comes from the English word digital and translates as prudent, cautious, discreet or discrete.

A special feature of digital is the ability to evaluate and perceive the world using logic and analytics. Very often, people with this psychotype become mathematicians, programmers, chess players, lawyers, and so on.

When communicating with people of other psychotypes, digitals can successfully adapt to their type of communication and perception. So, for example, when communicating with an auditory person, the discrete will try to find a common language with him using lively and vivid speech, predicate words that the discrete itself usually does not use.

When communicating with the visual, he will colorfully describe the images, and tell the kinesthetics more about the sensations. But discrete individuals communicate this way only when they need to win over their interlocutor.

In ordinary everyday life, digital people do not like to show their emotions, they are very pedantic and reasonable, they always try to put all the information “on the shelves” and communicate only strictly to the point.

How does a person become discrete?

Many children from disadvantaged families, when exposed to unfavorable factors, are forced to become discrete children, and a kind of protective mechanism is triggered.
A child who is not pampered with positive emotions and feelings withdraws into himself and finds peace in the logic of things, which is always present in everything. Subsequently, in adult life, the discrepancies do not change, because, having had a negative experience on an emotional level, they no longer trust people, but believe only in reason and the logical course of things.

Another category of people who become discrete of their own free will are outstanding people, that is, scientists, politicians, businessmen. Such discrete people gradually, over the course of their lives and gain experience, come to the conclusion that it is more convenient for them to live, perceiving everything around them through the prism of logic; these are the so-called smart guys.

People of feelings

People who live by feelings are kinesthetics; they live by their sensations and feelings. Therefore, you need to look for a loophole on how to win this man through his feelings. It is important for him that his woman smells delicious, that her skin is velvety, warm and pleasant.

If your husband or partner is kinesthetic, then this will be clear from his expressions and actions towards the other person. For example, in his speech sentences like: “I feel, I feel”, “It doesn’t bother me”, “You are very warm”, “He has a gentle character” will constantly slip through. When communicating, kinesthetic learners try to sit closer to the interlocutor, they often touch the interlocutor, stroke the head, try to hug a little, touch the hand, etc.

If you have determined that your beloved is a kinesthetic person, then you can win him through the senses. You can serve him a delicious dinner, and he will appreciate it, while setting the table will be the last thing he worries about. Also, such people can be won over by scents. So, you can buy yourself perfume with natural aphrodisiacs or light aphrodisiac oils in an aroma lamp.

Touch him more often, stroke him gently, it’s good if you give him a massage - he will simply adore such a woman. And if you want him to want to return to your apartment again and again, then create comfort for him in the form of a soft and warm blanket on the bed and chairs, buy slippers in which he will feel comfortable, scent your home with pleasant aromas, hang a fluffy one in the bathroom and a soft towel, and then this man will definitely be yours.

Discretion in the profession

Discrete people not only have a wealth of life experience in various spheres, but are also very educated, which inevitably leads to the perception of life through the construction of analytical conclusions on each issue.
Many of them become discrete due to circumstances or their chosen profession. The best professions for discrete workers:

Most programmers are discrete because they work with software and not with real people, which leads to a change in thinking.
Many scientists are also discrete, because scientific research comes first for them, which leads to less expression of emotions and more manifestation of logic.
Discrete people are the best psychologists due to their rich life experience and analytical mind.

How to communicate with a discrete person?

Discrete values honesty most of all in people, so the worst thing you can do is try to deceive such a person. If discreet finds out about this, it will not be easy to justify oneself in his eyes. Also, you should not try to impress a discreet person with a provocative appearance. Most likely, this will confuse him or he will decide that the interlocutor is going to manipulate him.

There is no need to be offended by a discrete person if he does not make eye contact during a conversation. This doesn't mean he's lying or isn't interested in talking. It's just more convenient for him. This is especially difficult for visual learners to understand. However, it is also difficult for kinesthetics to get along with discrete people, since these people do not like touch and do not come close during a conversation. Discrete people appreciate it when other people respect their personal space. This must be taken into account if you want to make a good impression.

Who is your man - visual or kinesthetic? The way to his heart.

In addition to the well-known gradations in the character and temperament of all people into sanguine people, choleric people, melancholic people and phlegmatic people, in terms of the way people perceive and process information into introverts and extroverts, four main psychotypes can be identified when determining a person’s representative system. In this case, people are divided into kinesthetic, visual, auditory and discrete. It should be noted here that it is extremely rare to come across a “pure” type, more often a mixed one, in which one type predominates.

Based on the opinions of numerous works of modern psychologists, in this article we want to consider the psychotypes of men. Find out which of the four psychological types the man you are interested in belongs to. Based on the data received, you will receive information on how to improve relationships and communication with him, what you can do for him that is pleasant, and what, on the contrary, he may not like about your behavior.

The smallest type is auditory men

(10 percent of the total population)

These are “tape recorder” people. They can remember and reproduce (even in the appropriate key) any story, phrases, or words they hear. Expressions often used in speech: “Listen,...”, “This is unheard of”, “Keep your mouth shut”, “prick up your ears”, “This is said loudly”, “Let’s discuss”, “You can’t hear me”, “This is too much” noisy person”, “tight”? Outwardly, the audio person may seem stubborn and arrogant to the interlocutor, but this impression is deceptive. Audials are often sincere and attentive people, ready to listen and help with advice.

An auditory man has a keen ear for music and prefers good music (usually classics - symphony concerts, opera singing). The sounds of his voice are full of variety: melodic, melodious, intonations change one after another... When he says something to his interlocutor, it is as if he himself is listening with great interest to his voice. For him, sound is not an empty concept, but rather the most important thing in life. When you tell him something interesting, he even tilts his head, bringing his ear closer to your face. It is not at all necessary for him to see you - he first of all tries to guess your mood and desire “by ear”. The auditory listener's gaze is usually directed along the midline of the interlocutor's body. Auditory learners make excellent psychologists, musicians and good lecturers.

If you find similar signs in your man, then you are dealing with an auditory person. It should be noted that auditory animals are rare in nature. There are many more human psychotypes such as visuals and kinesthetics.

One of the few types is discrete men (digitals)

(20 percent of the population)

A very small, but very unique type of people. Discrete men are more focused on the meaning, content, importance and functionality of the information they receive. That is, these are people who perceive information through logical comprehension, using numbers, signs, and logical arguments. Discrete people seem to be divorced from real life experience and natural perception of the world - they think more in the words themselves, and not in what is behind these words. For them, the written word or spoken word is reality. If for kinesthetic, auditory and visual learners words are access to experience, then for discretes all experience consists of words. Their speech often includes phrases: “It’s logical”, “We need to analyze the situation”, “If you think about it. then...", "So, by the method of elimination we find out...", "Where is the logic here?" Discrete people belong to a completely closed, complex type of people. They avoid communication and do not make contact first. These are very vulnerable and touchy people. Most often, these are former kinesthetic learners who, due to life circumstances, have withdrawn into themselves. In a “pure” form, discretes are extremely rare; rather, they are of a mixed type, where another “mixed” type predominates.

Let's talk about visual men

(30 percent of the population)

Visuals are people who “see” the world around them. Distinctive features of this type: a rather high voice (even for men), a keen gaze, their gestures are horizontal, directed away from themselves, the visual gaze is either straightforward - eye-to-eye, or directed upward. Gesticulation is clearly expressed, the person shows with his hands where and what is located. In speech, a visual person often uses phrases: “Show me”, “Face to face”, “Shine some light”, “I see what you mean”, “Look ...”, “The situation looks like ...”, “I see , that...”, “The picture is like this...”, “I acted ugly...”, “Bright events”, “Let’s try to look at the situation...”, “Vague concept”, “It looks like...”, etc. “The interlocutor does not listen to me because he does not look at me,” this is the concept that visual learners are guided by when speaking. It is very important for them to feel their personal space, and if an unfamiliar person intrudes into it, they immediately “close themselves” from him with a pose of crossed arms and legs. A visual man loves with his eyes. It is very important to him how a woman looks, how beautiful her face is and how proportionate her figure is. The visual person’s speech is clear, “on the same tone,” confident, and quite fast. He knows how to formulate his thoughts with correctly chosen words and clearly explain his position. In the family, visual men like to play a dominant role.

If you notice similar signs in your man, it means that your life is connected with the visual.

Who are kinesthetic men?

(40 percent of the population)

Kinesthetics are people who “feel” the world around them. They do not know how to hide their feelings, their eyes often give them away, so their gaze is usually directed downward. A kinesthetic person’s answers to questions are simple and straightforward; they make decisions based on their feelings. Kinesthetics - lovers of saunas, hot baths, massage.

If “visual” images are extremely important for a visual person, he perceives the world around him with his eyes and therefore believes that everything should be orderly and beautiful around him, then a kinesthetic person lives by touch, sensations from touch, pleasure from the convenience around him.

The speech of a kinesthetic person is much slower than that of a visual person. If the latter is able, after a clear and fleeting conversation, to forget about its content in the next minute, then the kinesthetic person remembers well what you talked about. Moreover, he loves to meticulously discuss the topic and all sides of the issue. His voice is pleasant to the ear - soft and velvety. If the same auditory learner tries to “hear” you, then the kinesthetic learner will try to stand closer to you in a conversation, touch your hand, hug you, pat you on the shoulder. The kinesthetic motto in relation to the interlocutor: “He doesn’t listen to me if he doesn’t feel it.” His favorite expressions: “I feel that ...”, “Get the meaning”, “Contact”, “This concerns ...”, “A hackneyed argument”, “Lift a finger”, “Thick-skinned”, “This is connected with ...”, “Spirit captivates”, “This is a warm person...”, “I have a feeling...”, “It’s close to me”, “It doesn’t touch me...”, “A difficult person.” When talking, kinesthetic learners prefer to sit close to the interlocutor, trying every now and then to touch his hand, pat him on the shoulder, stroke his head, hug him...

Kinesthetic men are reliable family men and good friends.

Have you found any familiar signs?
This means your man belongs to the kinesthetic people! The way to a man's heart.
How to deal with a visual:

If you want mutual understanding with a visual person, speak to him in his language: “Imagine how good everything would be if you...”, “Try to look at the situation through my eyes...”, etc.

Always take care of your appearance - this is very important! Try to be well-groomed, fit, take care of yourself. Don't let yourself get loose, always dress nicely.

If you send him to the store, give him a list of what he needs to buy - what he can see with his eyes is much easier for him to perceive than with his ears. Otherwise, he may get confused or forget.

Give him a beautiful photo with your image (especially for a mobile phone this is a good idea), express your feelings on paper and give cute notes. If you buy him things, remember that he only likes things that look good. Color is very important to him. At the same time, he pays less attention to the practicality of the thing and how it feels to the touch.

How to deal with audio:

Audials usually choose women with a charming, beautiful voice. So, if you are with him, then your voice is probably exactly like that. Use this advantage more often when communicating with your man - speak to him melodiously, with a pleasant intonation, exciting, sexy.

Use words and expressions in your speech: “Do you hear?...”, “Let’s talk,” “I’ll tell you...”.

And talk to him, talk! He needs conversations. Share information, stay up to date with news, read more. Tell him about your love, including on the phone.

How to deal with a kinesthetic learner:

The way to your man's heart is through physical touch, hugs, touch, caress. Touch him in passing, he will take it as a sign of attention and will definitely appreciate it. He loves delicious, cozy, comfortable things. Use perfume that smells pleasant to him. Light scented candles. For such a man, quality sex is very important. If you are a goddess in bed with him, he will carry you in his arms.

Learn how to give him a massage and pamper him with it more often.

When talking with him, use his expressions: “Do you feel how much I love you?”, “You are a very close person to me”... And at the same time try to hug him, touch him. Believe me, he will hear and understand you.

When communicating by phone or in a letter, at the end be sure to say or write to him: “I kiss you,” or “I hug you,” “It’s very warm with you.”

How to deal with discrete:

Talk to him in his language and try to rely on logical arguments.
If you also have facts or statistics, so much the better. How to feed him.
... This path, the shortest, has long been familiar to all of us - through the stomach! Take note that in your kitchen skills your man will like it.

Audiala

you can delight with a three-course elegant lunch, but be sure to be accompanied by musical accompaniment of your shared dinner. Conduct a tea ceremony for him at home according to all Chinese customs (this is easy to learn today by attending special tea courses). Pouring aromatic green tea into small bowls, included in the ceremony program, will please your auditory ears in the best possible way.

For a visual man

– always set the table with a “zest”, create a beautiful table setting, decorate dishes with imagination and sophistication.

A dish you created for a kinesthetic man (and also, in this case, for a discrete man)

must be delicious.
It is most important. Decorations and table settings will not make much of an impression on him, no matter how hard you try. In communication, in family life...
Auditory man

does not tolerate family squabbles with his wife screaming. It is much more accurate to influence an auditory learner by changing intonation rather than by continuously raising your voice. Watch the fluctuations of your voice, speak insinuatingly, slightly offended (as if you are about to cry), fascinate with the intonations of your voice if you want to achieve something from him.

To discrete men

You can’t get into your soul, say what you want “head-on”, or accuse someone of something. You can melt their “cold” heart only with warmth, goodwill and... unobtrusiveness.

For visual men

Over time, you get tired of admiring the same face and type of woman. This natural pattern of the visual is easy to “deceive”…by changing the image! Change your wardrobe, hair color, hairstyles, makeup colors... And now you are a “new picture” for the visual delight of your visual.

Male kinesthetic

stable in family life, balanced, loves that everything around him (including his beloved woman) is as always, as he is used to, as comfortable and convenient for him.
Frequent touching, caressing, stroking is extremely important for his worldview. This is exactly what you can do to please your kinesthetic learner. Lessons on seducing and keeping a man near you
With an auditory man

...speak beautifully. If you have a rough voice, you have little chance of winning over an auditory audience. Spend the night with him in intimate conversations over a cup of tea - and he will be conquered by you.

Express your emotions during an intimate relationship with him with all sorts of sounds: moan, praise, whisper in his ear - do anything so that he can hear you! Get “favorite” songs that only the two of you listen to. Every time he hears them by chance, an auditory man will think only about you.

Visual man

seduce beautifully. For a visual person, it is enough to look at the object of future passion to fall in love and lose your head. Always match his ideas of beauty, style and sexuality. The interior in which you seduce your visual man is also important. The colors in it should be perfectly combined with each other, and the furniture should have smooth, streamlined shapes.

Male kinesthetic

loves comfort, therefore his main requirement for the bedroom is its convenience.
He will love a soft and comfortable bed of maximum size, on which he wants to lie down and relax, and not stand in front of it and admire it. Intimate conversations and declarations of love are devoid of any meaning for a kinesthetic learner; what matters to him is how he feels when he touches you, and you - him. The kinesthetic person wants to touch you, hug and kiss you in all available (and inaccessible) places and receive the same from you. Sex in the kinesthetic sense is the best of life’s pleasures, and he is not going to doubt any touches or places for kissing. Direct proof that he needs you (dears, loves you) is in the following example. If your kinesthetic person does everything possible and impossible for you in bed, and then stretches out next to you, smiling blissfully, then you are on the right track. What should I give him?
The best gift for an audiophile man

- CDs with classical music, audio books, all kinds of audio equipment - player, tape recorder, stereo system.

Gift for a kinesthetic learner

(as well as discrete items) - a sweater, a warm jacket (great if you knit it yourself), a cake (preferably your own preparation), a set of candles in a ceramic candlestick or a sconce lamp in “warm” colors.

A great gift for a visual man

- an exquisite unique thing (antique, from objects of art), or, more simply, a camera. Give him beautiful things, cute trinkets that he will see, remembering you every time.

Give disk

gifts related to his work and what is necessary for recording his thoughts, calculations, etc.: organizer, carculator, folder, notebook, equipment. A smart book would be a very good gift. But you need to be careful about his tastes.

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We believe that there are also cases of a mixed psychotype - an auditory person with a “piece” of kinesthetic, a visual person who is interested in the audio perception of the interlocutor in communication. Why not? After all, choleric people can be inclined toward melancholy, and sanguine people can be a little phlegmatic in character. But we’ll talk about mixing psychotypes and analyzing their behavior another time...

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