Of all the possible options, he decided to call you the sun, and not baby, for example. Why? The point is that he himself enjoys the sound of this word.
Sometimes a man can call it differently. It depends on what mood he is in today and what he wants to convey.
In addition to the semantic load, each sound carries a certain effect on a person’s feelings:
- For example, the sound "F" can clearly express wild and burning reactions. It is often used when you are acutely dissatisfied with something - “Ugh”
- The sound “X” means sharp excitement (exclamations “ah”, “oh”).
- And the sound “Ш” , on the contrary, fascinates and attracts attention. He can use affectionate nicknames much more often than others. This sound absorbs attention and forces you to break away from other things. When silence is necessary, say “sh!”
- The second most common name in nicknames is the sound “K” . It is often used in affectionate nicknames: bunny, baby, honey. This sound focuses on sensuality, tenderness, and care.
- The third is the sound “L” , it can be found in affectionate nicknames 50% more often than in others. It means that emotions overwhelm us, but we are not afraid of it, but rather open up to them. When we are in a good mood, we sing “La-la-la,” and when we are not happy with something, we say “Damn!”
Listen to what and how your partner tells you. After all, even the sound of a word will tell you a lot about your chosen one’s feelings for you.
What the subconscious hides under all sorts of nicknames
Psychology allows you to reveal the secrets of the male subconscious and provides answers to the questions of why a guy doesn’t call his girlfriend by name.
But it also lifts the curtains on the true motives and hidden desires of male representatives, depending on the nickname they choose. According to experts, every coined term for a chosen one carries a double meaning that can only be discerned by the woman nearby:
- animal names (feline, herbivorous, furry, cold-blooded, aquatic, etc.) have 2 interpretations: either a man has a gentle character and is ready to put the whole world at a woman’s feet, or he treats you superficially;
- children's addresses (baby, baby, girl, baby, baby) indicate that the man is ready to bear responsibility and sees in you a tender, vulnerable chosen one, or that he himself is an immature partner;
- warm nicknames (native, sweetheart, beloved, dear) carry the mood for a long-lasting union, or he subconsciously asks you to show more feelings towards him;
- cosmic names (sun, star, moon, universe) indicate that a man emphasizes and wants his woman to shine brighter - the partner wants to be proud of you;
- poetic speeches (the light of my soul, my life, the dazzling empress, a woman from the past) usually speak of a man’s idle talk, which is rarely supported by actions;
- natural, sensual concepts (stream, joy, happiness, aspen tree, birch tree) are interpreted by strong love on the part of the partner;
- nicknames such as “golden”, “precious”, priceless” should alarm women - perhaps the man is looking for benefit in her for himself (not necessarily in material terms);
- delicious names (donut, bun, candy, marmalade) do not at all mean that there is a hint of curvaceous figures - such compliments indicate that you give a man warmth, positive energy and support, or he misses your thriftiness;
- if a man has given you a special nickname that is associated only with you (appearance, habits, character, surname) - this is a sign of real deep feelings, a willingness to share the rest of your life with your partner.
Why does a guy call his girlfriend a diminutive name, declining it in different cases or inventing creative additional words for it? So he says that he is looking for a special emotional connection with her, which will be understandable only to the two of them.
When the relationship has already begun
Let's say you've been together for several years. All issues relating to art, work, leisure and other things have been discussed more than a dozen times. You even know his mother’s favorite dish, and what he affectionately calls his pet.
What to do next What to say to a man if he is practically an open book for you In such a situation, it is important to preserve those warm feelings that have already arisen between you.
First of all, compliment your partner. Don’t forget to remind him how courageous, handsome, fit, smart he is. Make it clear that you are in seventh heaven to have met such a prince. The conversation about the merits of the chosen one can be inexhaustible.
Secondly, at this stage it is already possible, and even necessary, to think about the future. Talk about how you will go to the mountains together next summer, what gift you will buy for his dad’s anniversary.
If a man is not bothered by such reasoning, you can take the risk of going further: dreaming about a wedding, asking if he wants twins. Try not to criticize again.
We are all human and mistakes are part of everyone’s life. You can find out about the gentleman’s past; at this stage, he already completely trusts you and can share heart-warming stories about the trials he has experienced.
Reasons why a man doesn't call a woman by name?
Before we understand the psychology of a man who speaks kind words to his beloved, let’s remember who we ourselves like to call not by name. That's right, small and stupid children who behave like cats, bunnies, and mice. Adults associate babies with soft animals or toys, but they understand their responsibility for their lives. Parents do not consider their children to be independent individuals who can manage their own lives.
So why doesn't a man call a woman by name? The psychologist’s opinion on this matter is already clear to everyone: a man considers a woman an unintelligent child. Could such a judgment about a girl’s personal qualities indicate indifference or reluctance to have a serious and long-term relationship?
If a guy is looking for a reliable companion whom he can rely on in difficult moments of life, then the “cute bunny” is unlikely to be able to count on a marriage proposal. True, some men are accustomed to completely relying only on themselves. Perhaps the stupid “kitten” is the person who will suit them as a wife and mother of their children.
Although such a statement is very controversial. After all, every man is looking for a woman similar to his biological mother to act as a mother for his future children. It is unlikely that in the eyes of a child the mother is a “bunny” or “cat”. Most likely, “tiger” or “dog”.
There is another factor due to which a man avoids calling a woman by name. It's all about the character and life principles that guide a person. An independent man, as a rule, wants to see a woman next to him who will obey him.
With affectionate nicknames, he “programs” her for a subordinate position. After all, if a girl calls herself a “little rabbit,” it is unlikely that after this phrase she will be able to reproach a man for something or force him to do something. A woman with a cute nickname is obliged, like a child, to obey a serious and adult man.
According to the psychologist, if a guy doesn’t call a girl by name, it means he doesn’t consider her a person to be reckoned with. If a man pronounces the name of his beloved, he treats her with respect, and considers the relationship serious and promising. After all, is it possible to make plans for the future with a stupid “sweetie”?
True, there is one more nuance that explains the reluctance to pronounce the name of your beloved. Perhaps in childhood the guy suffered a strong mental shock when he was punished by a woman named Anna. She could have been a kindergarten teacher or a school teacher. Since then, all women called Anna evoke unpleasant associations in a man’s subconscious. Without thinking about the meaning of his actions, the guy tries not to say this name out loud. Mental trauma received in childhood can be the cause of discomfort in the relationship between lovers.
Psychologists' opinion
A guy can use different epithets in relation to his girlfriend. Basically, they are images of animals that sound affectionate and do not offend the girl. During passionate games, during intimacy, associations with plastic and graceful creatures can be heard. If a man uses the phrase “you are mine,” the guy can rarely explain it. A man wants to subjugate a girl, not always, while expressing the desire to possess her. In some cases, such a phrase speaks of the complex character of the beloved.
A similar thing manifests itself in a man when a desire arises for complete control over a girl, her subordination. Over time, this attitude often manifests itself in the form of jealousy, aggression, if encountered with disobedience on the part of the beloved. When constantly using expressions with the pronoun “mine,” observe the guy’s actions and behavior.
However, there is no need to be upset if this phrase is used in a relationship. Perhaps the guy on a subconscious level expresses his reverent desire to possess you and not let you go. This is a normal desire, which is most often projected in the early stages of a relationship. Usually the expression of sexual desire predominates if the partners have not yet achieved intimacy or intimacy is very rare
The young man unconsciously shows the importance of the presence of a girl in his life
How to name a child - a responsible choice - first name, patronymic and last name
How to name a child - a responsible choice - First name, patronymic and last name
When choosing a name, you need to consider how it will harmonize with the child’s middle name and last name. Otherwise, you may end up with some pretty funny, or even ridiculous, combinations. The combination of foreign names with traditional patronymics and surnames sounds especially strange.
If you cannot guess from the last name which gender it belongs to, it is better not to give the child so-called “universal” names - Zhenya, Sasha or Valya. Otherwise, misunderstandings are possible when a boy is mistaken for a girl, and vice versa.
If you can still choose a name for the child, and there are different options with the surname (for example, you can give the baby the surname of the mother, not the father), then it is unlikely that it will be possible to change the patronymic. Therefore, very often parents try to match the child’s name to his patronymic. At the same time, they often pay attention to how the name and patronymic are in harmony from the point of view, for example, of numerology. Those who believe in the meanings of names try to choose combinations of first and middle names that will reinforce each other.
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