How to make a man run after you: psychology of influence

How to make a man run after you - psychology of emotions

We influence men's emotions, not logic!

Man is first and foremost an emotional being, and secondarily a logical one. Therefore, it is necessary to influence the unconscious of a man.

Many girls make the mistake of trying to please them on a logical level. They strive to show their abilities in cooking, demonstrate intelligence, and so on. But there is no result. A man can mark this as a plus in his mind, but this knowledge will not make him fall in love.

The brain can be roughly divided into two parts, the conscious and the unconscious.

The conscious mind is responsible for thoughts, logic, and decision making. The unconscious is responsible for feelings, emotions, instincts.

The unconscious is many times more powerful than the conscious. Therefore, we mainly influence only the male unconscious. But to do this effectively, you need to know one fact.

Fact! The law of communication is that your emotions and internal state are transmitted to your interlocutor.

People read the internal state of others unconsciously. Of course, there are people (for example, politicians) who know how to mask their feelings and reactions, but this is of no use to us. Moreover, our trick will not hide emotions, but rather demonstrate them.

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What I mean: if, while communicating with a man, you enter a state of positivity and enjoyment of life, then these emotions will be transmitted to him. You will be associated in his head with positivity and excitement, and he will begin to be drawn to you.

Short story I remember one girl who radiated incredible positivity. She was like this with everyone, it was her everyday state. I was drawn to her all the time, because she was a real source of buzz. Moreover, her appearance was ordinary, but the men went crazy about her. And all because she enjoyed herself and loved her life.

In all my experience, there were only a few such girls who had positive thinking. Mostly people are depressed, with problems and toxic thinking - this is repulsive.

But what is equally important is that when communicating with a man, experience for him the feelings and emotions that you would like him to experience for you.

For example, when I communicate with a girl I like, I focus all my feelings and emotions on enjoying her. A strong sympathy and admiration burns inside me (however, I do not voice this in conversation). And magic happens - she begins to experience the same feelings for me that I broadcast from within myself. There is an impact on the unconscious.

I mentally note the positive aspects in her, look with loving eyes and we begin to be drawn to each other. This is what the rule does: emotions are transmitted.

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Many men experience a feeling of awkwardness, embarrassment or arrogance when on a date with a beauty.

The man’s internal state is transmitted to the girl and she begins to think: “Something is wrong, I don’t like him.” The girl simply didn’t like the energy the man was transmitting to her. After all, fear, awkwardness, or feelings of superiority are not the emotions that a girl will fall in love with.

Men who do not know the principles of how the psyche works try to please them on a logical level. They talk about their successes, boast about their cars and status. But the impact on the unconscious = zero. Therefore, it is difficult to please with this approach. But some positive guy with great energy immediately attracts attention.

Conclusion: Start feeling the emotions and feelings that you want a man to feel towards you.

Do you want a man to admire you? - Start to admire him on an internal level during communication
Do you want a man to feel excited about you? - Get really excited next to him and this feeling will be passed on to him.

At the same time, you do not verbally talk about your admiration or excitement. Your dialogue should be on a completely different topic! For example, when you convey a feeling of admiration for a man, you should not shower him with compliments or elevate him in conversation. This will ruin everything! You need to experience these sensations, and not voice them.

All impact is on the unconscious. But on a logical level, you can talk about anything, even about fishing. And while listening to him, look into his eyes and convey emotions. Check it out, the result will surprise you.

Do not despair!

Even if He doesn’t reciprocate your feelings yet.
Wise people say that nothing is impossible in our life. We ourselves can change a lot, we just need to really want it. While we live on this Earth, we must desperately fight for our happiness. Today's cold ice of male indifference can be replaced tomorrow by the flame of true love. So, if you desperately type into a search engine “how to make a man chase a woman” and have long read all the existing books on psychology, then you will definitely be interested in this article.

How to make a man jealous? And in what cases is this necessary?

Important! Not in all cases it is necessary to cause feelings of jealousy. If your communication with a man is harmonious and healthy, then there is no need to cause jealousy.

But if a man tries to play with you or keeps you at a distance, then we turn on jealousy and competition.

In my articles, I have already written about the fact that jealousy needs to be caused correctly. For example, you cannot demonstratively show your popularity with other men.

An example of how not to do it:

“You gave up on me, but Vasya gave me flowers and I’m going to the cinema with him” - this will cause negative consequences for you. There is no need to do this!

You should casually mention or say that they are showing you signs of attention, but you don’t want it. Those. you mention other boyfriends casually, focusing on another topic.

An example of proper demonstration of your popularity:

“I met a classmate on the street who had been chasing me since school.
He admitted that he was still in love with me, I was so surprised, because so many years had passed. By the way, can you imagine, he works as a jump instructor and recently a person crashed and the parachute did not open.” And you start talking not about your classmate’s crush, but about the situation with the accident. Those. You mentioned your classmate in passing, as background. That's when jealousy will work perfectly.

Plan to get your ex back

When thoughts ripen in your head about how to quickly return him after a breakup, they often lead to the fact that the girl herself begins to pursue the man. This is definitely not necessary.

To get your ex back, you need to maintain warm, friendly relations with him, and then use the rules described above. Become the one without whom he will be bored and sad. Share his interests, support and reassure him when it is difficult for him. At the same time, it is important to monitor your appearance. Don't wear provocative outfits, but also forget about baggy things.

This will show that he has lost a girl, beautiful and attentive. After a while, he will regret that he decided to leave.

How to make a man feel? And make him run after you

I will say right away that a man determines the attractiveness of a woman immediately, at first sight. If a man sees a girl and he doesn’t like her, then it will be difficult to change this situation. But it’s possible!

There is one important psychological fact: if a person begins to behave towards you as if he is already in love, then over time he will begin to experience feelings for real.

Those. If a man does not have feelings for you, but at the same time tells you: “I love you,” then a search for confirmation will begin in his head. And if he says this phrase often, he will fall in love.

You don't have to get a man to confess your love (although that would be great). It is enough to create conditions in which a man will behave towards you as if he already loves you.

Now we need to decide what actions we need to get from a man in order to fall in love.

What does a man in love do?

Helps
Thinks about his beloved
Confesses his feelings, etc.

Goal: you need to make the man do the above actions towards you (preferably all).

Now let's look at each action in more detail.

Let's get the man to help

Human psychology is designed in such a way that we begin to like those people to whom we have done a favor or helped.

An example from my life I went on a date with a girl. During the walk, she began to tell me how she was reading a book. I became interested and asked him to let me read it. She gave me this book. Afterwards I noticed how she often asked my opinion about the work, wondering if I was happy with it. We began to communicate more often and a romance began.

When a person gives you something, he invests in you. And you become more valuable to him.

Ask your man for a favor. But so that it wouldn’t bother him. If from the very beginning you ask to resolve your housing issue, then they will send you. But if you ask him to borrow a screwdriver (you’re a girl), or even better, for him to screw something on for you himself (after all, he’s a strong man), then that will be great.

How to make a man think about you?

To make him think about you, you can launch intrigue into his brain.

I already wrote in detail about the intrigue in another article, you can read it here (opens in a new tab).

Method "perfume"

I read about him in one of the books. The essence of this method:

The girl was visiting a guy and when she left, she told him: “Every time you go to bed, you will remember me.”

She scented his pillow with her perfume. Every time the guy lay down on this pillow, he remembered her and their meetings together. This is a very cool way to make a man think about you.

How to get a man to admit his feelings?

But in the situation with confession of feelings, everything is more interesting. You can do this with a legend or a game.

Above you see a video (be sure to watch it) where guys make strangers feel feelings for them. They say they are making a video about emotions. And you need to act out 5 different scenes (declaration of love, jealousy, etc.) And the girls, playing this character, begin to experience feelings for real. This video is the clearest proof that emotions are transmitted.

Advice: come up with a way that will help you get a man to confess your feelings (even as a joke).

One of many options: say that you have lost the argument and now you have to break it up with a declaration of love. At what cost you achieve this recognition is not so important, the main thing is the result.

Women's tricks

Every woman has her own tricks with which she attracts men to her. The main thing is to apply them correctly so that everything works.

Eroticism in dress

You need to know the line between a vulgar appearance and the ability to emphasize the advantages of your figure.

They all have their pros and cons. One lady has wide hips, the other has a waist problem. There is no need to isolate yourself because of this, you must learn how to choose your wardrobe correctly in order to hide existing shortcomings and emphasize existing advantages.

Clothes should always evoke fantasy in a man. When he wants to undress you. But if all your merits are open to show, then it will not be his imagination that runs wild, but an opinion about you that will not be the best.

Slight arrogance

Arrogance is a manifestation of pride. When a woman skillfully uses it, she shows in a man the desire to prove that he is the strong, brave, worthy one. The main thing is not to overdo it. Once the guy is hooked, start keeping a little distance for a while.

Common interests

This is exactly the opportunity through which you can get closer. Find out his interests, hobbies and understand them. If he is a fisherman, find out more information about fishing and when the opportunity arises, talk to him about this hobby. Be smart enough to make him want to teach you. You can ask for a fishing master class.

If such interests are not at all interesting to you, find games on the computer that are more acceptable to you, perhaps. You can find out what he likes from food or movies. When he notices that you understand matters that interest him, he will be interested in communicating with you.

Flirting

Some people know how to flirt naturally, but most girls need to learn how to flirt. Flirting involves non-verbal and verbal actions that demonstrate your attraction to the opposite sex.

Look into his eyes, play with your eyes... There are many different signals. Carefully send them to a man, and he will answer you.

Intimate compliments

This trick should be used with caution. A woman must comply with all moral standards and add a little spice to them. The main thing is that the compliment made is not vulgar.

Speak ambiguously to appear more mysterious. Don't be directly vulgar when praising his body. This compliment can be off-putting. And an intimate compliment does not have to hint at sex.

Distance

Many people wonder how to properly ignore a man. It's better not to do that. You need to be able to keep your distance, play with him, but not openly ignore him. One of the main tricks of every girl is the ability to be a mystery when, it would seem, everything is clear for sure. Don’t force yourself on a man, don’t tell everything you have about yourself. You need to be able to leave beautifully and mysteriously so that people remember you. If you want a guy to remain interested in you, give him free space and keep space for yourself.

How to evoke emotions in men? Or everything about emotional swings

Let me remind you that emotional swing is pure manipulation. At best, you won't need this technique, but you should know it and use it if necessary.

Emotions, like a swing, swing in different directions. One side is positive emotions, and the other is negative.

Emotional swing is also called the “Closer-Farther” game. When you influence a man’s positive emotions, you make him “closer.” When it’s negative, you do “further.”

Important point! If a man makes contact well, then you don’t do “Next.” You do “Next” only in response to coldness from the man.

The classic swing (or the “closer-further” game) looks like this: you give the man positive, negative, positive, negative, etc. At first you are passionate about a man, show him care and attention, then you move away from him and begin to ignore him, then everything repeats.

I am sure that many of you have encountered the game “Closer-Far” in your life. Back at school, I ran after a girl, showed her signs of attention, but received nothing in return. But as soon as I neglected her and stopped communicating, she immediately wanted to return my attention to her - this is a classic example of closer-further.

You need to rock the emotional swing slowly, without sudden movements. Imagine that you are literally swinging an adult man on an ordinary swing.

You will not make sudden movements and efforts from the very beginning. You will start with small deviations from the equilibrium position, and then the amplitude of the swing will become larger and stronger. It’s the same with emotional swings, we start with small amplitudes.

The further amplitude of the swing will depend on the psychotype of the man. If he is sensitive and vulnerable, then strong swings in emotions are unacceptable - this will push him away. If men are cold and insensitive on their own, then a strong build-up will only be beneficial.

How I Used the Closer-Far Technique on a Date

I'm on a date with a girl. Everything is fine, she reacts well to me. 30 minutes pass and I start using kinesthetics (touch). I can give her a hand massage without any problems, but she no longer allows herself to be hugged. I create more comfort and positivity, increase touch. But she begins to move away, i.e. does “further” (communicates less, periodically sticks to the phone, does not give hugs).

So what happened? I say “Closer” to her, and she reacts to this “Farther.” And here many make a mistake: in response to the cold, they begin to try even harder to please and attract attention. But it doesn't work that way.

She gets my attention (as a matter of course) and suddenly I do “Next”. I stop holding her hand, sit away from her a little and begin to look at the phone in response. She reacted to this almost immediately. After some time, she took my hand and began to massage me. And then she asked her to hug her.

But if I continued to give her positivity in response to her coldness, she would completely lose interest. And so I just lit it up.

Conclusion: We do “further” only in response to coldness from a person (or in response to his negative behavior). If this girl had continued to react positively to me, then I would not have done any distancing. It simply wouldn't be necessary.

Basic mistakes

Never run after a guy yourself. It is important to be in his sight, but also to be able to maintain a distance.
You should never ask your friends for help. You should not send friends to the young man or persuade his acquaintances.
You can't be persistent. This will immediately turn off any man.
Don't try to humiliate others to make yourself look better compared to them.
Don't be vulgar in your clothes or words. Obscene behavior will be repulsive.
Don't seem too smart. When you want a guy to run after you, he needs to feel like a man next to you, that is, smart, desirable and strong.
You shouldn't demonstrate your independence, even if you know how to hammer nails, move furniture, or earn a lot of money. When you emphasize this, he will begin to think: “She copes well in life on her own.”
Don't mock the man or act too arrogant.
Know how to leave on time. If your relationship is close to ending, try to make sure that you are not enough for him.
Never give yourself up to the rest. Even if you live together for many years, remain a mystery.

It is easier to conquer a man than a woman. Remember the intricacies of psychology and be able to use this knowledge, then any guy will be with you.

Leave the guy alone for a while

No matter how strange it may sound, in order for the guy to start chasing you again, you can try to leave him alone for a while and not bother him with constant calls and demands for frequent meetings. This method is also effective if you want. You can devote the freed up time to your loved one: meeting with girlfriends, going to parties, joining the gym, dancing, and also starting to study what you have long dreamed of, and many other pleasant things that contribute to self-improvement or a regular break from the daily hustle and bustle. By distancing yourself from the guy in this way, you will give him the opportunity to feel what it is like to be without you. In 90% of cases, a guy, having analyzed his life without his beloved girl, understands that she has become not so joyful, and therefore begins to again seek the favor of his girlfriend in all available ways.

Pay attention to your appearance

As you know, all guys “love with their eyes,” and therefore a girl’s appearance is very important to them, so if you are thinking about it, take care of your appearance. A regular guy may lose interest in you because you have stopped taking good care of yourself: putting on makeup and dressing the same as in the first month of your meetings, or you have gained a couple of extra pounds. In this case, you need to slightly adjust your appearance, paying special attention to beautiful clothes, neat hair and makeup, and, if necessary, physical exercise. Seeing his girlfriend as her former beauty, the guy will definitely renew his interest in conquering her. You can also attract a new guy with the help of a spectacular appearance, and you don’t have to be an ideal beauty, you just need to find your highlight that will set you apart from the crowd of other girls.

Sequencing

The psychology of men is designed in such a way that they will never be interested in a girl who is easily accessible or too predictable. To attract a guy's attention, awaken in him the desire to constantly be near you. To do this, you need to be in his field of vision, but at the same time remain inaccessible. It is unacceptable to completely fill his life. A girl should not look for a meeting with a man she likes. If she wants him to start running after her, let him take the initiative. It would be useful to disappear from the field of view of your chosen one for a while, and then suddenly appear, inviting him to a meeting. You shouldn’t immediately answer his calls, write a quick response to messages, and certainly don’t call first; let the young man feel that he needs a conversation with you and get in touch himself.
You need to become a strong personality. Not every man considers the most important thing about a woman to be her appearance. Many people pay attention to who she is and what she represents. You will have to work on bad habits, bad habits, learn to understand the world around you. A man may become interested in getting closer to an interesting person.
We need to develop and improve intensively. Many guys are attracted to women who do not stop there, know what they want from life, set goals for themselves, and achieve them.
Sexuality and... Don’t think that a man will only pay attention to a woman with a large bust or one who wears a deep neckline. Sexuality is a certain energy that can be developed by understanding your femininity. A girl can take up special dances, attend trainings that will reveal her sexuality, and do yoga. You can also develop charisma, so you will have many more fans.
The ability to use flirting will allow you to turn even the most avid bachelor into a predator who will follow your trail. However, this method is not suitable for everyone, since not every girl knows how to flirt. You need to learn how to speak intriguingly, “shoot with your eyes,” carefully straighten your hair, and lightly touch a man’s shoulder. This is inherent in a woman from birth; the main thing is to be able to reveal this ability in herself.

Play a game called “hot and cold” with your boyfriend

This method is more suitable for getting a new guy interested and making him chase you, however, it can also work on a regular boyfriend if you haven't been dating for too long. The essence of the “hot-cold” game is to either bring the guy closer or further away from you. For example, for several days you can call a guy literally every hour, take an interest in all his affairs, invite him on dates and generally show all sorts of initiative, but over the next few days, on the contrary, do not call and ignore his calls yourself, stop being interested in what he has new, and refuse meetings under any pretext. Then the cycle can be repeated, and repeatedly. As a rule, after several such alternating periods, the guy literally begins to “break the roof” and he is ready to do anything if only the girl would behave with him the way she did on the “hot” days.

Signs of falling in love

It is difficult to talk about falling in love as something specific, since this feeling manifests itself individually for everyone. Depending on a man’s upbringing, intelligence and preferences, several signs can be identified that may be characteristic of an emerging feeling:

manifestation of activity in the presence of a woman in order to attract her attention, make her smile, make eye contact;
the desire to show care, courtship, awareness of a woman’s tastes and preferences;
the young man tries to find more reasons to spend time with his girlfriend, reasons to talk on the phone or meet;
in a large company, a man’s attention will definitely be attracted to the girl he loves, he will also more often approve and support her statements than others;
It is common for a person to unconsciously copy the gestures and actions of an interlocutor whom he or she likes.

In turn, if a man is not in love, but experiences sexual attraction to a woman, this is expressed in such signs as:

gaze: appraising, glides over the figure from bottom to top. At the same time, the facial expression is more likely to be cold-bloodedly appraising than dreamy or loving;
behavior: depending on confidence and temperament, can be more cheeky in order to impress a woman or more tense when trying to hide sexual desire;
a preoccupied man is distinguished by indifference to his partner’s emotions, as well as views, thoughts and beliefs. He shows himself in relationships just enough to maintain the woman’s sexual interest.

Sexual attraction is not falling in love. In this case, a person’s interest is based on passion, which does not provide a reason for building normal, serious relationships.

From a man's point of view

Girls who deserve to have men running after them must correspond to one of the images outlined below.

Like-minded person. A young lady who has similar interests, thinks alike on any issues, and supports.
Inspiration. A woman who is like a dream, she inspires, a man can be proud of her.
Rival. A young lady who can contradict a man, compete with him, is an intelligent, independent lady.
Mentor. A woman who is full of wisdom is able to teach her chosen one new skills.
Sample. A girl, looking at whom, a man awakens the desire to strive for the ideal, for perfection.