Optimism and its impact on well-being - 7 principles of optimism

Optimism is a trait that is set to become more common, based on Winston Churchill's famous quote that "a pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity, an optimist sees opportunity in every difficulty."

The poet Kahlil Gibran once wrote that “Your life is determined not so much by what life brings you as by the attitude you bring to life. Not so much by what happens to you, but by how your mind looks at what is happening.”

The attitude he mentions above is what we call optimism.

Optimism is both a philosophy and an attitude. It is a philosophy of how we interpret events that happen in our daily lives. It's about how we move forward. It is a way of life—a perspective or lens through which to evaluate the desirable and undesirable events that occur in our daily lives.

Not everyone may be an optimist, but everyone can become one. At least that's what positive psychologist Martin Seligman explains in his book Learned Optimism:

“A pessimistic attitude may seem so deeply ingrained that it may remain forever. However, I have discovered that pessimism can be avoided. In fact, pessimists can learn to be optimists, not through mindless tricks like whistling a happy tune or uttering platitudes, but by learning a new set of cognitive skills.”

However, the question we need to ask is not “how can I become more optimistic” but “what daily principles can I live by to become more optimistic by nature?” This reflects what Epictetus, the Stoic philosopher, once wrote: “Don’t explain your philosophy—embody it.” And the only way to embody a philosophy is to practice it day in and day out.

So what are these principles of optimism?

Given that the term “optimism” comes from the Latin word Optimus, which means “best,” it may be appropriate to first look at the region where the word was first discovered.

In The Seven Hills of Rome: A Geological Tour of the Eternal City, the authors argue that for many years historians, political analysts and sociologists have debated the question of what made Rome more powerful than its neighboring cities. Without taking into account one key factor behind its initial rise: the geology of Rome.

They demonstrate how Rome's innate core qualities were its proximity to a major river and close access to the sea, its hills for view and plateaus for defense. And also clean drinking water from springs in the Apennine Mountains - gave the city many geographical advantages compared to its surrounding environs. areas. Rome itself played a decisive role in the rise to power.

In other words, Rome begat Rome. And in the same way, only you can give birth to yourself.

Changing goals

A person, of course, can achieve anything if he has the desire. But sometimes the path to achieving a result is so long, complicated and thorny that the thought arises: shouldn’t we look for other goals, simpler, but equally attractive? So, in any case, the optimist will decide - in those cases when, as a result of difficult and prolonged swimming lessons (music, Portuguese), he will not be able to rejoice at even the slightest achievements. And he will immediately switch to dancing (figure skating, Hindi language), where, perhaps, he will achieve unprecedented success. Although, maybe he won’t achieve it there either... Well, this was far from a complete list of interesting and exciting activities.

Practice. Optimists have many hobbies - this is the only way to find out what suits you best. And parents who want to make their child just as optimistic and versatile will not take him to harp lessons just because “if you start something, you need to finish it.” Optimist parents are flexible people and offer their child a lot of activities - as well as at least some freedom in their choice.

Always believe it's possible

Principle #1: An optimist understands the fundamental rule: seeing is not believing; rather, believing is seeing. And so he develops a mindset around this mantra: “My beliefs can change what I see and perceive.”

In her book, Mindset, psychologist Carol Dweck explains that people operate from one of two mentalities, a fixed or growth mindset.

With a “fixed mindset,” we believe we have no control over our growth, intelligence, or creativity. And through this belief system, we strive for the illusion of success, feeling comfortable and avoiding failure at all costs.

However, with a “growth mindset,” we thrive in the face of adversity and view failure as a springboard for growth. A growth mindset is based on the belief that your core qualities are something you can develop through your own efforts. People with a growth mindset have a desire to teach and learn, a willingness to give and receive feedback, and the ability to confront and overcome obstacles.

What does optimism have to do with it? Your way of thinking, based on the belief system you have developed over time, determines how you see yourself and the world around you.

The view you take of yourself profoundly influences how you lead your life. It can determine whether you become the person you want to be and whether you achieve what you value.

In other words, seeing is not believing, but believing is seeing.

If you believe that a solution to your problem actually exists, you will be able to see opportunities and therefore be much more inclined to take action. And isn’t that what optimism is all about? Choosing to believe that the future can still be wonderful, seeing the possibility of that future, and then intentionally working today to make that future come true.

As Alan Watts once wrote, “faith is above all openness, an act of trust in the unknown.” Believing in the possible is what leads us to see all the possibilities that could be. An optimist believes and he sees.

Open up to friendship

As a child, we could easily and naturally find new friends. This becomes more and more difficult to do with age. In addition, relationships with some of your existing friends deteriorate or simply become obsolete. The difference between adult relationships is the awareness of choice. We got to know each other in the sandbox, kindergarten or other places because we were forced to spend time together in the same location. But even this does not detract from the main advantage - it was easy for us to talk to a stranger and immediately start playing together.

Adults need to learn this too. For some this comes easy, for others it is a real challenge. By limiting connections, we stop developing, learning new things, and simply forget about pleasant friendly gatherings. Don’t think, we don’t encourage you to make friends with passers-by on the street. It would be strange. Today it is very easy to find friends with similar interests using the Internet. It will be both interesting and useful. Such friendship is much more sincere and honest than “forced” friendship.

It is important to know

You could observe the latter, for example, at work. When a person pretends to be friends, but in reality they hate you. Do not let such people into your personal space and try to limit communication with them.

Ronald Hubbard, mentioned at the beginning of the article, put this emotional background at 1.1 on the scale. Suspended between fear and anger, he does not openly show hostility and prefers to wear a mask. This is his defense.

Communication with such an individual can be dangerous, because for the most part they are angry and envious. But you can easily neutralize its negative impact if you identify it right away. Here are his behavioral characteristics:

starts the conversation first and tries to prevent questions from being addressed to him;
allows himself barbs and caustic remarks (he does this in a veiled manner, so it’s difficult to call it a direct insult);
will definitely respond to the remark and will not miss the opportunity to undermine your authority in the eyes of others;
constant lying, even unnecessarily;
actively collects and spreads gossip;
does not act “forward”, it is characterized by cunning combinations.

With such a friend there is no need for enemies. Just don’t let them into your life, look for real, sincere relationships and people.

Do the work

Principle No. 2: An optimist does not engage in wishful thinking; an optimist works consciously and hard.

The philosophy of an optimist is not based on wishful thinking. The optimist's philosophy is based on work.

Yes, you can choose to believe in a better future, and yes, you can see all the ways it can manifest itself, but the truth is that the wheels won't turn unless you stand up and push them. You may believe that one day you will succeed as a writer and can see yourself as an acclaimed author, but the truth is that this book will not write itself—you have to sit down in a chair and write.

What stops you from getting work done is resistance. This is something we all experience, especially when it comes to taking action to achieve an outcome we truly desire. Sometimes this manifests itself as fear, self-doubt, or procrastination. Other times it manifests as delusional wishful thinking.

After all, imagination will only take you so far. Yes, it excites you and gives you a mountain of motivation, but the only way to sustain it and channel it into fertile soil is to sit down and do the work.

How to neutralize unfriendly people

Magicians and esotericists offer a thousand ways to protect yourself from enemies and ill-wishers. We will not resort to dubious methods. But we will give practical advice on identifying such individuals and neutralizing their negative impact.

How to recognize a schemer

At first glance, these are calm and friendly personalities. But this impression is deceptive. They build multi-step combinations to achieve the goal (dismissal of an employee, deprivation of his authority and respect from colleagues). It is in your interests to identify such a colleague or “friend” as soon as possible. The following signs will give away an intriguer.

They are curious and try to extract valuable or interesting information using all possible methods. They use it in the future to escalate the conflict.
In a conversation they try to seize the initiative. Thus, they unleash a barrage of questions, preventing them from asking about themselves.
Masters of the behind-the-scenes game. They think through combinations in advance. It is almost impossible to catch them red-handed; they act very carefully.
They rather occupy secondary positions and do not shine with talent, and are not professionals.
Envious. Sometimes it reaches the point of absurdity, the root cause is uncertainty. They are not ready to put up with the fact that someone is richer, more successful, talented and simply beautiful. They correct such “injustice” with all their might.

When the ill-wisher has been identified, you need to build your own plan of action. This will help you keep the situation under control. Psychologist Vladinata Petrova in the book “How to protect yourself from rudeness. 7 simple rules” gives constructive advice.

Don't let the aggressor take the role of judge. Remind him of his right to privacy, doubt his competence, and do not allow him to be intimidated by an “authoritative” opinion.
When insulted, do not try to make excuses. Describe the current situation in the form of a picture. Counter questions are appropriate here.
Have you ever thought about how your actions look from the outside now?
What did you just say, what is the conclusion based on, can you confirm this with facts?
Distract attention by any means, do not let them bombard you with questions and accusations. Before answering, think about whether your opponent has the right to ask this.
Reconstruct his actions. You shouldn't get into a fight. The conflict will flare up more. Instead, break down the insults. Let him explain. For example, clarify: “This is an order... Why do you say that?” Another great method is the “verb hook.” When answering a question, repeat the words of the interlocutor. - Marya Ivanovna, how do you live without a husband now? - Yes, it lives, it lives. This way you will not allow yourself to be offended by leaving him without information and reasons for gossip.
Describe irritating factors. Now we are talking about non-verbal impulses and methods of influence. The phrase can be pronounced in different ways. When you hear mockery in your voice, intonation, or style of pronunciation, immediately ask your opponent what makes him talk like that. It is important to accurately describe its actions.
Hint at inadequacy. You should not openly insult him. At the next prank, just tactfully note: “Was it really like that or is it a figment of your imagination?”
Keep your distance. Do not allow it to become personal and strictly stop conversations on personal topics or attempts to discuss colleagues (acquaintances). Avoid the unpleasant conversation.

Focus on yourself

Principle #3: An optimist does not obsess over what he cannot control. An optimist focuses only on what he can influence - himself.

You don't control people's opinions of you.
You have no control over the weather and natural disasters.
You don't control the global economy.
You have no control over what other people decide to do.

However, you can control how you respond to all of the above. How do you react when someone is playing a status game with you? How do you distance yourself from people who don't share the same values as you.

In other words, what you control is you. Your opinions, aspirations, habits and actions you take. Your mind and the way you think. What you can control and change is who you are as a whole. Trying to control or change anything outside of this realm only leads to more anxiety, anguish and frustration - you will cause a storm and drown in it.

Optimism is based on the fundamental belief that whenever we are faced with a situation that causes suffering, we have two options at our disposal. We can change the current situation, or change our attitude towards it, by first changing the way we interpret it. And the only way to do this is to learn to focus only on what you can control.

As the Roman and Stoic philosopher Epictetus wrote in A Guide to Life:

“Happiness and freedom begin with a clear understanding of one principle: some things are under our control, and some are not. The main task in life is simply this: to identify and separate things so that I can clearly tell myself which external ones are not under my control, and which have to do with the choices that I actually control. Freedom is the only worthy goal in life. This is achieved by ignoring things that are beyond our control."

This last line is crucial: master yourself and you will become the master of your life.

How to become an optimist and how to improve your mood if you are a pessimist: advice from a psychologist

Most often, focusing on the negative is an innate quality. All 4 types of temperament are present in a person to varying degrees. Among pessimists, the melancholic type is dominant. Temperament determines a person's reaction to everything that happens. For melancholic people it is sadness and tears. Almost everything upsets a person. It cannot be remade. But you can learn to cope with the first reaction and switch quickly.

The instructions for developing optimism are still the same: work on yourself, follow the advice described above. Whatever the initial settings, man is a self-determining creature. You wake up in the morning and the day lies in the palm of your hand. What colors you paint it in is up to you.

Love more than you fear

Principle #4: An optimist lives and works out of love, not fear.

There is a universal truth: you can act and live your life from a fear-based belief system or from a love-based belief system. Live in fear and you will experience limitations associated with resentment, arrogance, insecurity and greed. Live in love and you will discover an abundance of courage, confidence, fortitude and generosity.

Inaction, stagnation, and acting as if the world owes you something are rooted in fear. Action, growth, self-compassion and kindness are rooted in love. Fast living and haste is a way of life born out of fear. Live slowly and respect the process out of love.

To love more than you fear means to make room for poetic mistakes in your life. It's taking yourself a little less seriously and laughing a little more. Doing something for the sake of true joy, and not for the sake of probable reward. It’s facing failure and thinking, “So what? I failed and now I'm much closer to success than ever before."

One of Nelson Mandela's quotes:

“What matters in life is not what we lived. How we make a difference in the lives of others will determine the meaning of the lives we lead.”

To make a difference in the lives of others, we must first learn to love fearlessly. We must remind ourselves that we are Beings trying to make sense of this human experience. And all that matters at the end of this journey is not what you achieved. It was about how much you loved yourself, how much you loved the people who walked this path with you, and how freely you gave to them.

All that matters at the end of this journey is how deeply you have touched the souls of those around you through your actions and creations. But, of course, you cannot touch someone with fear, but only with the light of fearless love.

How to become a sunshine person

You have met such people in life. It is very pleasant and easy to communicate with them; they seem to radiate internal energy. And we involuntarily asked ourselves the question, how to find peace of mind and maintain optimism? There are a few simple rules here.

Lead a healthy lifestyle. Alcohol, nicotine, fast food undermine our health. And it is very difficult to remain in a good mood when you are unwell and your physical condition leaves much to be desired.
Do what brings you joy and give 100 percent to what you love. You shouldn’t put up with a job you don’t like or a husband who is a tyrant. Look around, the world is full of wonderful prospects.
Take an inventory of your environment. If you notice that after communicating with a certain person, you feel uneasy, feel discomfort or loss of strength, do not waste time on him.
Get inspired. The way to do this is different for everyone. For some, a trip to the forest is enough, while for others, the atmosphere of libraries and art galleries fascinates them.

To be happy or to accept the role of a “victim” is a decision that everyone makes for themselves. Anyone can learn to be optimistic and look at life with joy. You just need to work on yourself a little and develop the right habits.

Make it a habit to be solution-oriented.

Principle #5: An optimist is solution-oriented. He believes that there is always a solution and therefore only looks for solutions to problems and not more problems than existing ones.

In a talk entitled "5 Rules to Follow to Find Your Spark," Simon Sinek shared a personal story that led him to a major realization in life:

“There are two ways to see the world. Some people see what they want, and some people see what prevents them from getting what they want."

People who see what they need go after it. When they encounter obstacles, they keep going until they find a way around it because deep down they know what they want.

On the other hand, people who see things that prevent them from getting what they want only see obstacles. Consequently, they take no action.

People of the first group are optimists. There are no people of the second group.

If you want to be in the former, you have to become someone who is solution-oriented. This means that whenever a problem arises, you don't panic, complain, or allow your thoughts to think "this is the worst that can happen." No. Instead, you remain calm, composed, and immediately begin asking questions that will lead you to the right decisions.

You train yourself to become more resourceful by constantly asking the following question: “What can I do right now to solve this problem?”

How to find harmony

Everyone has heard the phrase “find harmony with yourself.” But they don’t explain how to do this. How to learn to enjoy life, every day, little things and see the positive in gray everyday life?

Here are simple and effective practices that solve these problems.

Slow life. The frantic rhythm of modern cities does not leave even a minute to take time for yourself. The more you load yourself, the more time your body and psyche will need to recover. Try to slow down. Here are three effective ways.

Make a list of the most important things and spend most of your time on them. This applies to work, home, and relationships with loved ones. You have no idea how much time you will have freed up if you give up some unimportant responsibilities and tasks. You will also find that doing your work slowly is more productive. You make fewer mistakes, don’t forget what’s important, and enjoy the process itself. Spend more time with your loved ones. Go for walks, have picnics, read books with your children.

Limit the flow of information. TV, Internet, telephone, instant messengers, social networks. All this distracts us and takes up precious time. In addition, constant dialogue with yourself. All this can drive you crazy. Let's give your brain a rest. Look at messages only once a day, turn off notifications, and watch TV less often.

Refusal to achieve. This term has become very popular recently. Work hard, achieve your goals at any cost, abandon family in favor of a career. In theory, fulfilling all these postulates should lead to a prosperous and joyful life. In practice, such workaholics are increasingly becoming victims of stress and nervous exhaustion. There is no need to talk about the feeling of all-encompassing happiness here.

The main mistake is the attitude “when I achieve (get, become, buy, etc.), then I will be happy.” This approach is a priori a failure. You need to set yourself the task of enjoying the process, not the result. You may never achieve your goal. And then what? Feel like a miserable loser all your life. If you love the work you do (it doesn’t matter whether you are a housewife or the director of a large enterprise), you will be happy to go to work and receive a charge of positive emotions every day.

Tension and relaxation. Life itself will not allow you to be constantly in a relaxed state. Therefore, it is necessary to find a balance. Concentrate while solving important problems. But remember to give at least 15 minutes of calm to your brain and body every day. During this time, try not to think about anything. Let thoughts and feelings come into harmony.

Always be grateful and accepting

Principle #6: An optimist is grateful and accepting, allowing himself to fully feel what he feels, because that is how he overcomes all his suffering.

Optimism is not positive. Positivity means that everything is fine, even when it is not. This is just nonsense. Positivity means: “Forget about your problems, look on the bright side and move on.” This is repression, not liberation.

Optimism is simply finding positive meaning in negative events—it is a form of resilience. And the way to do this is to use positive emotions during times of stress to better cope with existing negative emotions.

In their research on optimism and resilience, psychologists Michelle Tugade and Barbara Fredrickson explain that “resilient people use positive emotions to recover from stressful encounters and find positive meaning in them.”

This is because they work on using a wider range of emotions to develop optimism:

How can I use the energy created by this stress and anxiety to help me better cope with the challenges I face?
What can I learn from this stress and how does it help me change, grow, or find new solutions?

In fact, negative emotions serve a specific purpose; they try to tell us that something is wrong. Listening to them and further exploring why we feel the way we do gets to the root of the problem.

So the idea here is to give in to the flow of life—to work through it, not against it. By being grateful for everything that happens, you accept it. And by accepting it, you will transcend it. As Eckhart Tolle writes in his book The Power of Now:

“Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.”

The best self-control exercises to become a little more optimistic

By developing the ability to concentrate on the positive, learn to be an optimist in everything. Stop yourself from thinking about bad things. It's a whole new world: you'll feel like you've opened the curtains and let the sun in.

Develop a negative attitude towards bad thoughts. Every time negativity appears, force yourself to squat or snap your hand with a money rubber band.
If you are overwhelmed by negativity, anxiety, apathy, self-pity, change your facial expression. Move your cheek muscles, make different grimaces. This will change your inner state.
Helps remove the negative “dog breath”. Remember how dogs that have been running for a long time breathe. Quickly, often, superficially. Open your mouth and breathe in the same way for about a minute. Emotions will leave you.
Smile at at least three people every day.
Read books daily. Make a list of the ones you want to read.
Exercise every day. Sport helps produce joy hormones.
Get a cat. If it’s very busy, you can have some fish. But better than a cat. This is a living creature that can entertain and distract from heavy thoughts. The cat will make you happy - these animals take away negativity, relieve stress, and heal. These are scientifically proven facts. By receiving additional positive emotions, you will quickly develop optimism.
Call your friends, family. Every day, choose someone to talk to. Do not correspond, but talk, meet. Choose live communication.
Keep a success notebook. Write down everything that made you proud of yourself since childhood.
Watch films that motivate, charge with optimism, and inspire. Lists are available on the Internet.
Keep a wish notebook. Write down everything you want there. Think over ways to implement each point, go towards your goals.
Walk outdoors every day.
Take photographs of the city streets, yourself, and friends.
Forgive everyone who has hurt you in the past. I'm truly sorry. Try to understand and don't get angry anymore.

A contrast shower will also help get rid of bad thoughts. Take it if there are no health contraindications.

See the beauty

Principle #7: The optimist constantly seeks and reminds herself of the imperfect art , beauty and poetry that surround her.

This seventh and final principle corresponds to the majesty of the Quirinal Hill, the highest of the seven hills of Rome. It is an honest embodiment of all the previous principles that lead you to this: the gift of seeing beauty in all that is.

Think about it:

If you choose to believe that your aspirations are possible, you will see beauty in your imagination. If you choose to do the daily work that will get you there, you will see beauty in your efforts and progress.

If you choose to focus only on what you can control—yourself—you will see the beauty that can only be found within yourself. And if you choose to love deeply and completely, you will see the beauty in becoming fearless.

If you choose to be solution-oriented, you will see the beauty and joy in solving problems. And if you choose to always be grateful and accepting, you will see the beauty of life's many blessings and the meaning of your efforts.

This last principle itself embodies what it means to live a life based on the philosophy of optimism: like life itself, we are imperfect and impermanent, and this is what makes us so beautiful.

Help the children!

An equally difficult task is to raise your children to be optimists. Obviously, it will be easier if the parents themselves have already been “infected” with this condition. What to do?

● First of all, love and accept the child unconditionally, no matter what he or she is. Don't focus on his shortcomings, show him his best qualities and develop them.

● Direct the child’s attention to joyful moments more often. Remember with him how last year we went to the sea, to the village, went to the forest, park, met interesting people. Look again at the photographs that capture these pleasant moments.

● Encourage him to do good deeds. Explain that you can always find a way out of unpleasant situations, and correct mistakes. Show how important attention and care are to people. And as an example, prepare gifts with him for all the children who come to his birthday party. You'll see, this day will bring him many discoveries.

Practice the Seven Principles of Optimism and You'll Become Naturally Optimistic

Optimism is about acknowledging today's challenges and giving yourself permission to hope even when you feel very anxious, anxious, unhappy or afraid. It's not about ignoring your negative feelings about an impending crisis, but about finding a way to keep them from overpowering you.

Optimism is simply believing that the future can still be wonderful. Even if it doesn't seem plausible right now, then work intentionally today to make that future come true.

Ready for anything

Optimists do not deny possible troubles. It may seem that this is a direct road to despondency and pessimism. In fact, quite the opposite. If you hide from any thoughts about problems and various troubles, nothing good will happen if something like this does happen. Being prepared for them and knowing that we can cope with anything is what helps people and gives them confidence in the future.

Practice. “We will never part,” “Losing your job is impossible” are wrong thoughts. “We are fine now, but if we are destined to separate, then I can cope with it,” “The job is wonderful, but if I have to leave it, I can find another option” - these are statements that contribute to a positive attitude towards the future. It is difficult to offer options for children - children, due to their age, cannot plan and think about the future. But it’s still better if they begin to assimilate your attitude now - after all, character traits develop slowly and gradually.

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Praise yourself!

There is a shortage of good, kind and affectionate words in the world. The majority of people clearly do not have enough of them. And this is not because there are evil soulless creatures around. Simply, due to being busy, people do not have enough time or even energy for emotional communication with each other. And the best way to fill this lack is to praise ourselves. Well, that is, it is not necessary to write poems “in honor” and place them on billboards, but in small ways, it is simply necessary.

Praise yourself for your success at work, for not forgetting to congratulate everyone on all the holidays, for the fact that your child has finally learned to put away his toys. And, of course, don’t forget to praise him too! And for toys, and for polite words, and for helping my sister, and - just like that!

Finding the positive

The Chinese have such a wise story. A traveler was walking through the forest, and suddenly a tiger attacked him. The traveler was able to escape, but the tiger rushed after him. There was a cliff ahead, and the man hung above it, clutching a branch of a plant. After catching his breath, he looked down and saw another hungry tiger walking there. Then the man decided to hold on to the branch as long as he had enough strength. But then two mice crawled out of the hole and began gnawing on this branch. And then the traveler, looking around again, began to pick and eat the strawberries that grew next to him. This is where the story ends. But it is clear that the traveler’s actions did not harm him at all, and maybe even helped. Whatever the outcome of events. Even if we imagine that the tigers were luckier, at least a few joyful moments still brightened up this, frankly speaking, not very pleasant situation.

In general, no matter how many problems there are, this is not a reason to give up small joys. Then, perhaps, the problems will be resolved much sooner (it is quite likely that the traveler, reaching for strawberries, suddenly discovered a cave in which he took refuge).

Practice. The highest aerobatics in the art of positivity is to learn to create such pleasant moments for yourself. Remember something very pleasant, look at your favorite photos, hug each other. Tell a funny story. There are dozens of such examples - each of us has our own little ideas. All this will take a few minutes, and the resulting structure will have the best effect on the situation as a whole.

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Communicate with optimists

No one has yet managed to become an optimist in a pessimistic environment. Your friends, acquaintances, colleagues, relatives shape your vision of the world around you. Therefore, try to communicate with optimists, they will allow you to catch the right wave, rethink your view of some things, and as a result, become an optimist. This is all natural. For example, if you live in Russia, over time you will begin to speak Russian, even without meaningful study of the language. It’s the same with optimists, if they surround you, they will infect you with their energy and will not allow you to give up.

Have a rest

Work always entails stress, which is why the body needs to recuperate. Even an ardent optimist needs a couple of days off a week, otherwise the positive attitude will be eaten away by fatigue. It’s better to work twelve to fourteen hours on weekdays and rest on Saturday/Sunday than to sit in the office from nine to six all seven days.

You also need to pay attention to your own sleep schedule. It is easier for the body to go to bed and get up at the same time, and the duration of sleep should be at least eight hours a day.