What is gynophobia
Gynophobia (gynecophobia) is an irrational, panicky fear of women. And if someone is scared by all representatives of the fair sex, then other gynophobes are afraid of representatives of a specific type. Differentiation can be based on any sign, but most often they talk about the following subtypes of gynecophobia:
- Fear of pregnant women (gravidophobia). Probable causes: miscarriage, death of a spouse, stillbirth, conflicts with the mother.
- Fear of virgins (parthenophobia). Probable reasons: fear of disappointment, fear of blood and pain, fear of ruining oneself or another person's life, lack of experience in communicating with girls.
- Fear of beautiful women (venustraphobia). Probable reasons: lack of self-confidence, inferiority complex.
Behind gynophobia are different types of men’s fears: fear of intimacy, fear of intimacy, fear of business relationships with a girl, fear of any interaction and communication with representatives of the fair sex.
Sometimes gynophobia is understood as a fear of men or relationships in women. However, this fear has its own name - androphobia.
How to recognize a man with gynecophobia
Boys with such fear usually appear quiet, withdrawn, and like to stay in the shadows. They have few friends. They spend all their free time at the computer.
When a boy grows up, the presence of a phobia reveals a disdainful attitude towards the opposite sex. To hide a panic attack, the young man is rude to the girl. He believes that women are not people, men are smarter, better than the opposite sex, a woman should know her place, etc.
In the most severe cases, the pathology can develop into a mental disorder, which leads to uncontrolled aggression towards the weaker sex.
Psychiatrists discovered the presence of gynecophobia in most maniacs. All these men, killing and raping, felt superior to the victims.
How can a woman raise a boy?
If a woman raises her son alone, she must take care of proper psychological education. To do this, you must adhere to the following rules:
- A boy should have an example of a strong man. In the absence of a biological father, this role can be filled by a grandfather, stepfather, coach or teacher.
- A mother should treat a growing man with respect, take into account his wishes, discuss important family events with him, and tell the boy that he needs to consult with him.
- A woman should teach a boy to treat the opposite sex with respect and kindness, and explain that a woman is weaker. With proper upbringing, boys at an early age, on their own initiative, help their mother carry her bag, open doors for her, and give way to her.
- Punishments should never humiliate a child. In no case should physical punishment be present. A mother who beats her son provokes a phobia of women in him. It is better to entrust a strict conversation to a close man.
Treatment of psychological disorder
A man cannot cope with such a psychological deviation on his own. You need to see a psychotherapist for help.
In order to help, a specialist will need to find out the cause of such fears. Hypnotherapy sessions are often used for this. As a result of such procedures, a person can remember life events that he hid in the subconscious, protecting his psyche.
Group therapy and cognitive behavioral techniques are effective in treating such fears.
Such phobias can be treated well; it is important to find a good specialist in time and trust him. After successful therapy, a young man, seeing a beautiful girl, will not be afraid of her. He will be able to establish relationships with women in the future and, perhaps, create a normal family.
Reasons for fear of women
Reasons for the development of fear in women:
- Authoritarian, abusive mother or lack thereof. Dislike for the mother, fear of getting another spanking or being rejected is transferred to all women.
- Childhood trauma associated with violence from a teacher, nanny, or bullying from girls.
- Painful breakup with a girl as an adult, toxic relationship.
- Betrayal by a friend, any negative situation related to the girl.
- Denial of femininity, fear of growing up and pregnancy, sexuality (female cause).
- Traumatic sexual experience.
In women, gynophobia may be associated with a fear of competition. Perhaps the girl is afraid of being less attractive, successful, and in demand than other girls.
Signs and symptoms of gynophobia
With gynophobia, two patterns of behavior are noticeable:
- A gynecophobe despises and hates women, treats them with disdain, and tries to destroy them morally and (or) physically.
- A gynecophobe is shy about women, avoids contact with them, and is afraid to meet women.
Sometimes gynophobia is associated with a specific area or a specific type of woman, for example, a gynophobe is afraid of women in leadership positions or afraid of tall women. It all depends on the root cause of the fear, the type of injury. For example, if the phobia is associated with the cruelty of the mother, then a man may be afraid of those women who are in some way (externally or internally) similar to their mother.
At the sight of a representative of the fair sex or when trying to talk to her, the gynophobe falls into panic. This is accompanied by a number of somatic reactions:
- nausea,
- vomit,
- headache,
- dizziness,
- chills,
- tremor,
- tachycardia,
- arrhythmia,
- fainting.
In advanced stages, gynophobia turns into xenophobia and misogyny.
Consequences of a phobia
Fear of women is a serious problem. A gynophobe cannot feel like a full-fledged member of society, since most of society is women. He cannot enter into a close relationship with a woman, start a family or have sexual contacts. The result is depression, mental and physical dissatisfaction. The person withdraws into himself and does not appear in public. Then we can already talk about anchoretism - voluntary hermitage leading to the degradation of the social personality. A gynophobe risks not starting any relationships until old age.
Some seek salvation in alcohol, drugs, and gambling. Others go to the extreme of homosexuality. There are worse options - gynophobia can become aggressive.
According to research, many maniacs were driven to crime precisely by the fear of traditional contact. Therefore, they raped the victim and this was the only way they received satisfaction. However, the fear did not disappear.
A gynophobe may remain alone for life
Treatment of fear in women
Psychologists recommend using the technique of gradual rapprochement. In addition, it is important to deal with psychological trauma. For this it is better to use psychoanalysis. Therapy is aimed at working through trauma, increasing self-esteem, getting rid of complexes, and developing communication skills. Group psychotherapy has a good effect.
Don't take a pickup course. They don’t teach adequate interaction and don’t deal with trauma. They make money there on weak, traumatized people.
How to overcome your fear of women yourself - advice from a psychologist:
- Try, try and try again. Only through practice can you destroy old neural connections and hone new reactions. Ask yourself: is your life in danger? If not, then there is nothing more to be afraid of. Everything else, for example, a woman’s refusal, is stupidity that does not deserve your attention. Imagine that you are going to the store: “Did you bring bread? - No. - Well, okay".
- Increase your self-esteem, get rid of complexes. It all comes down to your insecurities and doubts. Analyze in detail everything you need to deal with. Do this step by step.
- Study psychology in general and women's psychology in particular. Pay special attention to the psychology of communication, including non-verbal.
You don't give me any emotion
It’s funny, but the second female fear (not being on the same wavelength) contrasts clearly with the 5th male fear – the girl’s emotionality. But really. A woman feels something, experiences it, and then uses those feelings as the basis for her decisions and actions with a particular guy.
If she feels like everything is going well, then her logical decision is to continue dating this guy.
But for you, men, emotions are like a litmus test for time spent. If they are pleasant, it means that the time has not been wasted. Therefore, let’s not say that this is some kind of nonsense, but let’s turn them to our benefit.
But first I would like you to accept one fact.
There are girls who really aren't right for you. By temperament, by character, by outlook on life, by...
You can go on for a long time, but one thing remains the same - she is not suitable for you. Not your man. There is no need to get upset here. We are looking further.
Your emotions from the meeting are no less important than hers. And first of all, you should focus on your feelings.
And now some tips on how you can emotionally “get together” when meeting or dating.
– Create a trusting atmosphere - tell a story about yourself, ask what she thinks about anything arising from this story. Talk about the environment - what you like or maybe vice versa.
– Empathy – nod rather than argue with her over every little thing. Supplement her answers, clarify their details.
- Sincerity and goodwill. Be surprised, rejoice, laugh. Don't be afraid to be yourself. Straighten your shoulders.
– Allow her to be vulnerable and have weaknesses. “Oh, my little one!”, “You’re my little one!” and others. Even strong women want to be gentle and cared for by a strong man.
I wrote in great detail about conversations that attract women and show your personality in the article “How to become an ideal interlocutor.” You can learn a lot of useful information from there on the topic of girlish emotionality and taming it.
